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We're surrounded by advertisements that desperately compete for our attention. Everywhere we look, we find ourselves inevitably drawn to images of scantily clad attractive men and women that are supposed to somehow inspire us to purchase products they endorse. Sure, this attention-getting strategy is popular. But, is it effective?

Sex appeal can increase the effectiveness of an ad or commercial because it attracts the customer’s attention. It’s human nature to be curious about sex. A pair of long legs on a billboard is more likely to catch (and hold) a guy’s attention than a puppy, regardless of how cute it may be. Even women are drawn to them, perhaps with the desire of having goddess-like legs.

However, misuse of sex appeal can be costly. Many campaigns deemed offensive have started brand boycotts that affect sales and damage brand reputation. Abercrombie & Fitch has been involved in several scandals, the latest from their most recent catalog entitled “XXX Wet, Hot Summer Fun.” On April 18, 2002, only a week after the catalog hit the stores, the Illinois State Senate passed a resolution condemning A&F’s advertising tactics. This resolution, backed by several nonprofit organizations, suggests citizens and shareholders boycott Abercrombie’s products and to take a stand against the company’s marketing strategies. Although sexy images in catalogs are not at all uncommon, “XXX Wet, Hot Summer Fun” featured naked boys and girls frolicking in natural settings. Not quite appropriate for an apparel catalog targeted at teenagers.

Sex in advertising has stirred controversy for many years, an advertiser must be careful when incorporating it in a campaign. Great advertisers consider not only the attention-getting power of an advertisement or commercial, but also what kind of emotional response it provokes in customers. Studies show that the attractiveness of the endorsing model provokes positive responses. Nudity and graphic erotic content, while still increasing consumer’s attention, doesn’t really generate positive feelings among viewers. In other words, advertisers must be careful to avoid the “cheap shot,” which may negatively affect a brand’s image.

To avoid that, the sexual content in advertising must be appropriate to the product category and have a proper underlying message. In 2000, Heineken launched the “It’s All About the Beer” campaign. One spot, called “The Premature Pour,” shows a beautiful seductive woman pouring Heineken into a glass. When a guy across the bar responds by pouring his own, he nervously pours too fast and spills foam all over the table and himself. The sexual content is implicit, yet direct. The sexual reference in this and other spots in the campaign worked, causing sales to rise 13% in the first two quarters of 2002. However, Steve Davis (VP of marketing in Heineken USA), claims that, “Provocative is a very good place to be, as long as we’re not inflammatory. But the spots also work for a different reason. From the tag line to the plot, they are about a desire for Heineken. Our ads make the beer the hero.”

Sex sells, yes, but only when used “in good taste.” As marketers we must think not only in getting customers’ attention for the short term, but also in building a brand reputation that will yield long-term results.

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Mark Levit is managing partner of Partners & Levit Advertising and a professor of marketing at New York University. Partners & Levit's clients include Procter & Gamble, UnitedHealth Group, and GE Commercial Finance. For more information call 212-696-1200 or visit http://www.partnerslevit.com.

If you are in a sexless marriage and are unhappy because of it, dont worry, it isnt unrecoverable but it is serious cause for concern. You may even be thinking that you need a divorce because of your sexless marriage, thats only natural. But, in order to really decide what to do, some thinking needs to be done so you feel good about your decision, regardless if you stay married or not.

Being stuck in a sexless marriage can have you feeling a wide range of feelings from loneliness, listlessness, confusion, unconfident, etc. These feelings come about for a variety of reasons and they can be overcome if you just figure out why youre in a sexless marriage. You need to get to the root of the problem and uncover the real reasons that you and your spouse are no longer sexually active assuming of course, you once were!

To get to the heart of the causes for a sexless marriage will take some time. On the surface, you may be thinking that the cause of your sexless marriage may include one or more of the following scenarios:

Sexless Marriage: "We both work too much!":

You both work extremely hard and there just never seems to be enough time to get together, your schedules are skewed. This is true a lot nowadays with the new economy, lots of couples are married but just live together like roommates if both parties have time-consuming careers. If not managed properly, it is unfortunate but common for people in this type of lifestyle to end up in a sexless marriage.

Sexless Marriage: "You work, I stay home with the kid/s!":

One of you works very hard with your career and one of you stays home to raise the children child, which is equally as hard as any career! This situation can lead to a sexless marriage in many cases because of the seemingly disparate priority base of each party. The spouse with the career may need to work after hours, travel, or attend "post work" functions and the spouse who stays home raising the children child may not have any other outlet for relaxation away from the home front. This situation can easily lead to a sexless marriage because there may be underlying feelings from both sides that contribute to an already tough situation based on personal and work related schedules.

The spouse with the career may say at times, "Why do you think I work so hard I do it for you, the kids, our family, etc.". The spouse who stays home with the children child may say at times, "You have another release, you have social interaction daily with the outside world. I feel stuck here sometimes, I need to get out and have time for myself.". If the spouse that stays home feels like the spouse with the career enjoys being out and working more than being home, that calls for a whole different and escalated level of concern! Chances are the sexless marriage was bound to be that way before the current situation even arose.

Sexless Marriage: "I dont know why...theres just no spark left, you dont pay enough attention to me and our sex life and I guess I dont either!":

This is a common sexless marriage situation and it can be caused by a variety of things including emotional scars, bad experiences, boredom, laziness, etc. In this situation, there is deep cause for concern from both parties because both parties arent happy sexually but dont really know why it ended up this way. Both parties have just "let things go" and didnt place a high enough priority on their sex life with their spouse, which in and of itself is very concerning.

Why would either or both parties let things get this way when love making is so important

Sometimes theres a feeling of being taken for granted that can occur in this type of sexless marriage, and both parties should realize that sex is a basic human need and should take priority over other things at the right time. It takes work to get out of this type of sexless marriage, you need to sit down and figure out why your marital love life has dwindled. If you both really want to rekindle things, you can do so, but you both need to take equal responsibility for correcting the problem.

Whatever type of sexless marriage you are in theres certainly more types than listed here, remember that it is not unrecoverable. If youre to the point of thinking about getting a divorce because of your sexless marriage, take the time to sit down and figure out how it got to be the way it is now.

If youve lost interest in your spouse from a sexual point of view, you need to define exactly why that occurred. If you dont know right off hand, you need to think back to a time when you did have the spark and recall what you both were doing, feeling, thinking, etc. From that point, identify what has changed, why it has changed, and what you can do about it. When you get that portion figured out, you may well on your way to taking the first step of recovering from your sexless marriage. Remember, if you really want to rekindle your relationship, you can.

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For any parent, learning that a convicted sex offender lives on the same block, can be a chilling discovery. The thought of it alone, can be disturbing. Most parents cant imagine that someone, who could be so potentially dangerous, may live somewhere on their block or along the path their child takes to school. However, it is highly likely that there are registered sex offenders in your neighborhood.

Beginning in the mid 1990s legislative actions established guidelines for tracking convicted sex offenders and making such information available as part of a community notification effort. In 1994 the Jacob Wetterling Act began requiring states to register individuals convicted of sex crimes against children. The "Pam Lychner Sexual Offender Tracking and Identification Act of 1996" was enacted by Congress to provide for the nationwide tracking of convicted sexual predators. "Megans Law" 1996 further served to clarify the public nature of information and authorized the release of relevant information that is necessary to protect the public. Together, these three key pieces of legislation have shaped the structure of sexual registries, nationwide. Today, almost every state maintains a registry of sexual offenders, and makes this information easily accessible via the internet. Some states may not allow online access. However, they will explain, online, the procedure to follow to gain access to their registry.

Currently there are approximately a half of a million registered sex offenders in the United States. They live in cities and towns all across the country. They are in "poor" and "affluent" neighborhoods. And they could be on your block. The twice-convicted pedophile who raped and murdered Megan Megans Law Kanka lived across the street from her home. Every parent should make it a priority to do a quick search to educate themselves about potential risk exposures thatmay be "dangerously" close. It is commonly said that, "What you dont know can hurt you." But more importantly, what you do know can save your life!

As you search the various databases it is important to realize some important issues. Not all databases are complete. Some only have listings for a small time period. Others only list certain types of sex offenses. While these registries represent a noble effort to empower the community with access to information about dangerous individuals that may still pose a threat, they are by nature incomplete. Not all jurisdictions update and maintain them with the same level of commitment. And compliance to maintain them is not known. You must also realize that every "offender" had a first victim and not every offender is caught. Those offenders would not be listed on any registry or criminal database.

The FBI maintains links to the various states registries. Access their links at: http://www.fbi.gov/hq/cid/cac/states.htm . However, surprisingly it is not the most up-to-date list available. The Klaas Kids site is a good site with extensive details about the types of offenders that appear on the various states registries. Access their database at: http://www.klaaskids.org/pg-legmeg.htm . And a newly updated link list has just been posted at the SafeKidsReport site, at: http://www.SafeKidsReport.com .

For parents, access to this invaluable information will serve many goals. One, it will help families to identify potential risks in their own neighborhoods. Two, it will encourage parents to initiate defensive behavioral changes that may dramatically protect their children from predators. And third, it will inspire parents to educate their children about the dangers that exist and the safety strategies that will help to protect them from harm.

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Julie Joyce is the Editor of "Safe Kids Report" - a newsletter dedicated to helping parents protect their kids from a variety of dangers. Parents can access Free Child ID Kits and other free family safety resources, at: http://www.SafeKidsReport.com

First of all Thanks for coming this to page. Our sexual drive has effect on our personality & impacts our personal- social -professional- Social Success & development ratio. Before marriage or before experimenting the sex every person thinks about his / her stamina and how long he can sustain the inner drive. Person is also confused on whether his / partner can satisfy sexually or not.

Graphology can help you to solve this all. Relationship cant be fruitful without the sound psychosexual relation between partner.

Following exclusive things can be revealed by graphology.

1: Who is the person who definitely wants to stay away form the spouse

2: Which wife fights with her husband, when they are having food

3: who is the person serving opposite sex physically, financially & socially

4: Who is unable to give physical satisfaction to opposite sex

5: How strongly is the person active in sex

6: Extra love and affection for romance

7: Extra love and affection with harsh, rough, cruelty choices for romance.

8: Willing & supporting to opposite sex for being stronger.

9: Wants romance but not ready to take risk for it, Wants romance but preference giving to duties & responsibilities.

10: Not happy with partner, Restricting himself from romance

11: Has no patience for romance

12: Early orgasm & problems in reproductive system

13: Sex drive sustainability & the way he performs sex.

14: Imagination & time spends on sexual topics.

These are the key things & other many things can be revealed by graphology related to life-partner & sex.

By graphology it is possible to improve the inner drive & to eliminate the problems regarding sex or regarding reproductive system but age & timeframe a very important factor here. This is the magic of graphology that neither you have to make any tests nor to perform attempts, all happens just with your handwriting. It is better to know the sexual elements of your partner.

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Quick quiz: Would you rather run 75 miles or have sex three times per week for a year Research shows that both activities burn the same number of calories. 7,500, to be exact.

We often think that something that feels good can’t possibly be good for us. Now it’s time to think again.

Sex in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits. In women, for example, the sexual act triggers the release of oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes feelings of affection and triggers that nurturing instinct. In men, sex encourages the flow of testosterone, which strengthens bones and muscles and helps transport DHEA, a hormone that may be important in the function of the body’s immune system.

Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., author of Superimmunity, also maintains that sex in a loving relationship helps the immune system by increasing the flow of certain chemicals in the body.

Hugh O’Neill, editor of Men’s Health magazine, recently listed some health benefits of sex, as well. Regular sex is regular exercise and has similar benefits, including improved cholesterol levels and increased circulation. Men’s Health also reported that men who have sex at least three times each week may have a decreased risk of developing prostate problems.

Sex, like exercise, releases endorphins. Endorphins contribute to the runner’s high and diminishes pain levels.

An active sex life may help us live longer, too. Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at Scotland’s Royal Edinburgh Hospital, conducted a study of 3,500 people ranging in age from 18 to 102. Weeks concluded that sex actually slows the aging process.

Sexual therapists remind us that frequent sex is a form of exercise. And feeling secure in a relationship leads to feeling happier, which could lead to greater health--and a younger look.

In fact, these studies indicate that intimacy plays a key role in the health benefits of sex. A promiscuous sexual relationship may actually produce an opposite effect by introducing a sense of anxiety and fear.

In spite of all these health benefits and the sheer pleasure of the act, Americans may still need a boost. At least one-third of American couples report "inhibited sexual desire," according to The Masters and Johnson Institute.

Sex therapists say sex acts on the principal of "use it or lose it." So, for your heart, mind, and soul, the best advice may be to "Just do it!"

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There are numerous herbal supplements on the market today that increase sexual performance and satisfaction. How is one to choose which of these products is the right one to try Trying to sort through the various descriptions can be time-consuming and frustrating. Therefore, when delving into the world of herbal sex supplements, it is important to know basic information concerning herbal remedies.

When looking for an herbal remedy, it is important to find one that states it falls under the category of herbal Se supplements. The Se stands for standardized extract, meaning the ingredients are carefully measured and formulated so that each tablet or capsule contains the exact same portion of ingredients. Some herbal supplements do not offer this imperative procedure; therefore, the doses will vary, even in the same bottle.

In order to gain such goals as penis enlargement, increased sperm count, or heightened sexual desire, the incorporation of herbal Se supplements is the key. With anything else, results will vary due to the variance in the dosages taken daily. When dosages vary, consistent results are much more difficult, if not impossible, to achieve.

A prime example of herbal Se supplements can be found by researching supplements such as the MacaEnhancer or Vig-Rx. There are numerous herbal Se supplements available, and finding which one is right for your needs is simply a matter of research. Maca root has become in an increasingly popular herbal sex supplement. When combined with amino acids, the mixture will result in not only enhanced sex, but also increased semen production. When shopping for herbal sex supplements, look for ones that contain those two key ingredients and try to find one that offers vitamins as well.

Getting the right ingredients from a supplement that utilizes a standardized extract procedure will ensure that you’re using a quality product, leading to the best results. When researching for the right supplement to use, the very first thing to look for is if the supplements being studied are herbal Se supplements. If not, then do not waste any time or money on them. There are simply too many other products available that are proven to work without wasting effort on those supplements that are made with less than quality standards.

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Many of us longingly dream of having longer sexual encounters that will leave us breathless. We see vivid and tempting displays of such pursuits on the television and in movies, read enticing depictions in books, and even hear others speak of long and enjoyable sexual experiences that blew their minds. Why then, aren’t you able to enjoy longer and greater sex

You can. In fact, many individuals are enjoying much longer sex. Do these lucky individuals have a magic potion They may have a potion, but it’s not magic and it likely comes in the form of an herbal supplement. By simply trying the available products on the market that are specifically designed to increase male enhancement, millions are enjoying better, longer sex.

While in the past, problems concerning erection quality were a taboo subject that was rarely, if ever, talked about; that is no longer the case in the modern day. More and more men are becoming open to discussing this personal dilemma and are actively and aggressively seeking answers that will allow them to enjoy longer sex and more intense sexual encounters. The result of this increasing desire for a solution has resulted in the incorporation of intensive research of the mysteries of penile erections. Because of the increase in research, products have been developed that have been proven to enhance erection quality and provide millions with longer sex.

There are a number of supplements available on the market that will enable men to increase the size of their erections and the duration of their sexual activities. However, a few of these products go one step further by going beyond the simple goal of increasing one’s erection size. There are actually supplements that not only enable a man to enjoy a much harder erection, but also allow the body to develop more stamina, increased desire, and even reduce the stress and anxiety one can feel when they are concerned about their sexual performance. By combining all of these factors, one can experience a much longer and an extremely intense sexual session.

Unlike Viagra, many of these supplements are natural supplements that can be purchased over the counter. Because of this, men can avoid the embarrassment of discussing the problem with their family doctor as they can order the supplements without a prescription. There are numerous alternatives available that will promote longer sex and as a result, an improved sex life. Men no longer have to dream about having longer sex; many are now experiencing it thanks to the great strides these supplements have made.

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As a pregnant woman, you may experience sex drives much like your moods. Up and Down! Some women claim that they have no sex drive at all during pregnancy, and others, say their sex drive is better during pregnancy. With changes to your body happening so quickly, your moods and dives may also change just as quick!

Here are some common questions often asked by pregnant women with helpful answers!

Is it safe to have sex during all trimesters of pregnancy

If there is no pain during sex and your not a high risk pregnancy, then sex is perfectly safe! If you are experiencing pain, or have a history of miscarriages, or any complications, consult with your medical professional.

I do not have any desire for sex, is this normal

Every womans pregnancy is different. While some women experience an increase in their sex drive, others may experience a decrease. Many women that are experiencing morning sickness, have no desire for sex at all. This is fine, and actually perfectly normal. Who wants to make love when they feel sick As you enter your 2nd trimester, most of the time the morning sickness will start to vanish. Once this happens, you will feel better and your sex drive many appear. If you seem to just have no desire for sex at all, there are other ways to satisfy your needs and your partners needs for intimacy, such as kissing and holding each other.

Are there any positions that are more comfortable during my later months of pregnancy

Once your belly begins to grow, it may become uncomfortable to have sex in the "man on top" position. The "spoon" position has become pretty popular among pregnant women! In this position, each partner lays on their side, with the man in the back. This way your belly is not in the way and your body is still flat.

Is it true that sex can induce labor

According to medical professionals, there is a chemical in semen, that will soften the cervix, and aid in the labor process. However, sex will not actually induce labor. The semen can assist the labor process once it has begun, but will not actually cause labor to begin. If you are experiencing contractions, consult with your medical professional.

If you have any other questions that have not been addressed, talk with your medical professional! He or She would be more than willing to offer answers to your questions!

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Did you know that certain food that you eat evaluate your passion and makes your love life more pleasurable and hot! If your love life has turned sour, then you can sweeten things up with delicious mood foods guaranteed to stir your passions and bring back charm in your life.

Ginger: Ginger has long been considered a spicy treat for lovers. It is said to sharpen the mind so one can focus all their attention toward the act of love making!

Garlic: It enhances sex drive to such enormous level that love making turns out to be a real passion. So have garlic in your diet regularly.

Chocolate: Known as the "Love Chemical" . It contains phenethylamine that is released in the brain when positive emotions such as falling in love are expressed.

Ashwagandha: Potent stress calmer, calms down anxiety. Rasayan gives energy.

Hot N Spicy: The extra hot and spicy foods heat up the desires and put them in a romantic mood. Try getting ready for some red-hot romance with red- hot chillies and hot and spicy curries.

Love Potion: Add ginseng, rose petals, cinnamon sticks to your favourite beverage. Let it steep for 1-2 weeks and strain well. Wine or juice added to it wiill bring your partner in the mood for love.

Lifestyle: Eliminate stress as much as possible from your life Meditation is very helpful to help relax the mind and enhance the normal functions. Change your diet: At first a diet that lowers toxins is adviced for several weeks, followed by a low protein diet according to your constitution. This should be accompanied with Kohinoor Gold Capsules with warm milk Ayurveda gives three guidelines:

Vata people have the least stamina, so should ejaculate the least Pitta people are average in stamina Kapha people have the greatest capacity for ejaculation

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It is not uncommon, in a country like Bangladesh, that conversation about sexual issue remains a taboo. It is high time, that such taboo should be unshackled. Else, the ticking time bomb of HIV/AIDS could peter out risking 23percent adolescents of 130 million adolescents population of Bangladesh or face the supposedly sub-Saharan Africa’s consequence- it is said, within a span of ten years millions of children’s will vanish in the Sub-Saharan Africa, who are born with AID.

Recently, during a news briefing at Dhaka on 29 September 04, an official of UNFPA, said, poor knowledge of sex among adolescents poses a threat to their reproductive health. According, to Suneeta Mukerjee, the country director, Bangladesh UNFPA, “Parents must speak freely with their growing children about sex to ensure healthy living.”

On 31 August 04, at Rangpur a town in Northern Bangladesh, 335 kilometers from Dhaka, the capital of Bangladesh, an advocacy meeting was arranged by Social Marketing Company SMC.

Severe concern over the prevailing Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD, Human Immune Defiance Virus HIV and Acquired Immune Syndrome AIDS in Bangladesh and in the surrounding countries was discussed in the meeting. The present number of 13,000 HIV positive patients in Bangladesh is not an accurate figure, the number is higher, reported the Non-Government Organisations NGO.

Some NGO officials working in the field in Rangpur region said, the number of STD patients is alarmingly rising. The patients include even a large number of school going children from class eight up to university levels. They are taking all types of drug,

Adopting all means opening the huge door for HIV/AIDS vulnerability.

The advocacy meeting was participated by Government, NGO officials, physicians, journalists, Imams who leadprayers in the mosque, also it refers to titles of various Muslim religious leaders.of different Mosques and the elities of the town.

Most opposition to sex education in Bangladesh is based on the assumption that knowledge is harmful. But research in this area reveals that ignorance and unresolved curiosity, not knowledge, are harmful. This issue was identified in a face to face interactive dialogue jointly organised by UNFPA The United Nations Population Fund and CWD Concerned Women Development in observance of “World AID Day” Participated by some twenty-four teens of both sexes from the country. The teens identified religious ignorance, absence of appropriate approach on sex education in the curricula at secondary level of education as impediment to organising effective programs against HIV/AIDS.

Recalling, what La Rochefoucauld, French classical author said, about youth-“youth is a perpetual intoxication; it is the fever of reason,” it is this fever of reason, that is driving the adolescents who due to obscenity and ignorance indulge in early sex, being vulnerable to STD and AIDS infection. Our failure to tell children what they want and need to know is one reason why we have the out-of-wedlock teen’s pregnancy and abortion, even risk them to sexually transmitted diseases STD acquired immune deficiency AID.

For parents of today, sex is a dirty word. They feel uncomfortable in discussing sex education with their children. But are we aware on an average a child is exposed to 9000 sexual scenes per year. These parents should know that sex is not always a dirty word. It is an important aspect of our life. The main reason parents do not or cannot discuss sex education with their children is because of the their cultural upbringing, their religious training. They are often brought up in a state of ignorance in regard to sex issues.

What is sex education and who should give it

Is sex education about knowing the anatomy and physiology of the human body or about the act of sex or about reproduction and family life or about prevention of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy The problem with this is that at the present time sex Ed taught is incomplete. It does not cover morality associated with sex, sexual dysfunction and deviations.

Who should teach sex

With regard to the question that should teach sex education, I believe everyone has to play his or her role. Parents have to assume a more responsible role. A father has a duty to be able to answer his sons questions and a mother has the same duty to her daughter. We can hardly influence the sex Ed taught schools but we could supplement that with ethical and moral dimension adding family love and responsibility.

Hazards of early sex: A variety of injuries are possible and do happen when sex organs are not ready for sex in terms of full maturation. Some of these injuries have Cervical cancer has been thought to be related to sex at an early age and with multiple partners.

Why do children get involved in sex

There are many reasons why children get involved in sex. The most common reason, detachment from home can lead to attachment elsewhere.

Sexual pressure on them is everywhere, from the TV where about 20,000 sexual scenes are broadcasted in advertisement, soap operas, prime time shows and MTV. The hard core rock music nowadays fans the flames of sexual desires. Most parents do not know what kind of music their children are hearing. If they care and listen to rock songs like Eat Me Alive Judas Priest, The Last American Virgin, Tina Turner, Material Girl Madonna, they will know that these songs have pornographic words and sentences which made Kandy Stroud, a former rock fan, begged parents to stop their children from listening to what she calls Pornographic Rock”. Six out of ten as young as eight years in Bangladesh watch Indian TV channels. These channels can be termed as sex stimulators, be it a music or a serial. Instead, the parents should encourage their kids to watch channels like Discovery, History and Animal Planet; they are both educative and entertaining.

Research shows music does affect sexual mood. It does so by activating melatonin, the hormone from the pineal gland in the brain, which is turned on by darkness and turned off by flashing lights. It is the same gland that has been thought to trigger puberty and affects the reproductive cycle and sex mood.

What is the role of parents

Parents should control the music children are listening to or the TV program they are watching, the magazines they are reading, and the clothes they are wearing. Take the case of Phola Baisak, you find young girls attired in Holud Sari Turmeric Colour with matching bangles and Tipa colourful spot in the forehead not only they look graceful but reflects our cultural value and very next day back to jeans and tops- which may provokes desire amongst the young opposite sex.

About dating:

Many of the pregnancy occur at the end of the date and are not reported. According to a news agency in one it’s write-up reports sex dating in Bangladesh is prevalent, however it mentions,“even though there is no reliable statistics, the incidence is growing, expert says.” Few notorious cyber cafes are hub of porno with cozy coops ideal spot for “smooch dating!”

Anything which breaks down sexual inhibition and loss of self-control i.e. alcohol, drugs, petting or just being together for two member the opposite sex in a secluded place should not be allowed for teenagers. We must remember that, these young adolescents are a major segment of our population who will soon enter the reproductive and sexually active stage of life all potential target to STD and HIV.Therefore, before it is too late, the teaching of reproductive health to adolescents is basic life support. Parents act now!

In summary parents should teach their children that our values systems are different from western way of life. Having a feeling and love in your heart for someone of the opposite sex is different and beyond control, while _expression of the same through sex is entirely different and should be under control.

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HISTORY OF SEX TOYS

Sex toys have been used for thousands of years and many believe they had first originated from Asia. However, it was not until the ancient Greece time that sex toys such as dildos and other phallic objects were first made popular. Evidence also suggests that the Romans were the first to mass produce sex toys for a commercial purpose. The sex toys produced during these ancient times were often made out of smooth stones, carved wood, bronze or any solid fillings wrapped around in leather. They were usually long or had an oblong shape like an egg. For lubricants, olive oil was the more common choice.

The term "dildo" was derived during the 14th century Italian Renaissance from the Italian word "diletto" which means pleasure. The use of sex toys continue to gain popularity throughout these times. Dildos made out of rubber first appeared during the mid 18th century during the Victorian times. These rubber dildos were a leap forward as they can be fashioned after the penis and were much more comfortable to use.

Also during this time, the vibrator was invented. It was however not intended for pleasure, but was used by physicians to treat a certain disorder in women known as "hysteria". It was believed that this so-called psychological disorder could be treated by bringing the women to orgasm and the vibrator seemed perfect for the job. The first vibrators were steam powered.

By the early 19th century, more varieties of sex toys were introduced to the market and were featured in blue movies and erotic magazines. They were commonly advertised as "relaxation devices" to relieve stress and anxiety. By the 1940s, they were termed as "marital aids" and in 1960s, they were coming on strong as "massagers". Since the 1980s, with technology growing in leaps and bounds and fueled by imagination and passion, many types of sex toys were created including those for men and other fetishes like bondage.

Today, there are more people aware of their sexuality than in any other era and thanks to these little gizmos and the internet, sex toys can be delivered discreetly and conveniently to your doorstep. The sex toys industry has come a long way with manufacturers constantly improving on their product line.

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF SEX TOYS

Millions of people throughout the world today have discovered sex toys to be a fulfilling enhancement to their sex lives. Humans are motivated by both pain and pleasure and sex toys can be a compelling reason to bring you to your peak of your sexual pleasure. Before we begin to illustrate the varieties of sex toys, it would be beneficial to know what motivates you.

Some of the benefits of sex toys :-

They can bring variety and help explore new ways of sexual intimacy. It brings the fulfillment of a satisfying sexual relationship which lubricates an intimate relationship.

Sex toys can increase your sexual fulfillment skills, complementing a sexual relationship.

They can also be used to spice up a relationship. Imagine receiving a sex toy wrapped in a romantic gift box instead of the usual tie-in-a-box.

They can help you orgasm faster and easier if you dont orgasm often or find it difficult to orgasm with your partner. Afterall, vibrators were originally intended for this.

Sex toys can bring back the pleasure even when your partner is out of town.

If you would like to take a look at the various sex toys, you can visit: http://www.sextoysnirvana.com

About The Author

Steven consults and provides advice to the online store http://www.sextoysnirvana.com which provides various adult toys and novelty products.

Joy is sexy because in embracing our joy, we embrace our positive energy and power. Joy is always there, waiting to be reclaimed. It is the bridge between living life by default and embracing life by positive design. Get sexy this week and remember that no one can tell us what to think or feel. Events and other people cannot steal our access to personal joy unless we decide to give up our personal power.

Before we can exercise our innate power to feel and express joy, we have to recognize what joy is and is not. The seedbed for our joy lies not in what we are doing, or acquiring but in what we are being. True joy is a state of personal wonder and power that comes from inside out. Our most creative and innovative work happens when we are working with a sense of joy that transcends space and time and empowers us to be the best we can be. When we are working and living with our joy, in the flow of positive purpose, we also touch the true success, abundance and satisfaction we desire

Sadly, joy is something that we often forget to access. We grow up, grow busy and forget that joy that is a gift that is available to each human being. As adults we reach joyful states by being in the present moment, but the hustle and bustle of life often leaves us with few such moments of joy. Many of us are unable to access personal joy other than in moments of physical ecstasy when we are all living in the present moment and sharing a positive expression of joy with our partner. Physical ecstasy is wonderful, but it is always fleeting. How can we access a sense of personal joy, touch the personal realm of positive emotion when we choose to

Joy starts with our ability and our decision to let go of negativity, to cling to the positive, to appreciate the present moment, to not be distracted by the past or what we envisage the future holding.

We cannot be joyful all the time, but we can grow our joy muscles, our ability to attain a joyful state that transcends what we are doing and embraces our being. Get sexy with your life; decide to embrace a state of personal joy and appreciation. Remember that joy is not something that we have to learn, it is a personal power that we all had at birth and in childhood. It is an ability that we always have the power to recultivate and regain.

Imagine if you could take just one day this week and embrace all that is positive, and put negativity on hold for 24 hours and be one with your sense of personal joy, and power.

How would you feel How would a positive focus impact your thoughts and your actions and words to others

What would your joy day look like

Take one day this week and decide to experience Just Joy. Take a day off from needs and fears, just operate from positive preferences. Learn to say no to what you do not want, and embrace what you do want.

1. Decide to cultivate each moment with positivity. If this is hard find a personal tool that works for you. i.e. put an elastic band on your left wrist, and when you feel yourself moving from the present moment, or falling into negativity give yourself a little tap with your elastic, not to hurt yourself but to refocus your thoughts on the fact that you have decided to take a Just Joy Day and to put negativity on hold.

2. Energize yourself by not letting people who are negative, draining or demanding steal your personal power, your joy.

3. Learn to be aware of your negative feelings, but to also be able to put these feelings on hold and enjoy a Just Joy day.

4. Let go of all the things that block personal joy like ego, negativity, fear. Let them go for 24 hours.

5. Share something joyful with another person, and see joy grow!

6. Focus on what is really important, focus on the positive in your life and work and how to share positive thoughts with others.

Enjoy a positive experiment, recognize that joy is sexy. Decide not to let anything or anyone get you down for 24 hours. End your day thinking about what you have learned and shared. Write to me about your Just Joy experiment! © 2004 Irene Segal

About The Author

Empowerment…. Irene Segal is a business and life coach who works with issues of change, business growth, leadership and self-empowerment. She was recently appointed as the Personal Development Expert for Enterprise Toronto, a branch of the Economic Development Office of the City of Toronto and is also an Ambassador for the Toronto Board of Trade. Irene’s professional journey includes running a multi million dollar steel business, mentoring entrepreneurs, financial consulting and co-authoring a book about coaching, Exploring Coaching. She received her coaching certification from Coach Training Alliance, who described her as one of the stars in their program. Irene was one of 10 Canadian women chosen by the Federal Development Bank to set up the first mentorship program for women in the country- Step Up. She was also the first woman Rotarian in Canada. irene@justcoachit.com

Most of us belong to a large circle of friends that we have known for years. Few of us have more than two circles of friends. You know what I am talking about. These are the girl and guy friends that you hang out every weekend with. You know everything that is going on in each other’s life, you are there for each other and it seems like you will always be together. We are the generation that made St. Elmo’s Fire a cult classic.

But why do we limit ourselves to dating within our own circle of friends Once you have been in that same circle of friends for a number of years the act of dating within your group can actually elevate itself to the “creepy” stage and begin to resemble incest instead of dating. A have a number of girlfriends that seem to continuously date every single guy in our group, jumping from one to the other as if it were a taste test. This behavior is not limited to the females only; my male friends enjoy the same sort of lifestyle. Myself and few others excluded, I think every one of my friends have hooked up with each other at some point in time. For example, I have a girlfriend who is sexually active with three different guy friends. She really likes one of them but he is just interested in the sex. Unbeknownst to her, he is really into another girlfriend who is the her best friend and neither one of them know about it. Meanwhile the girl he really digs is into and involved with another guy friend who is his good friend. And it goes on and on from there. Although we are all good friends, it has become a complex tangle of sexual and emotional deceit.

Casual sex can be such a pleasure. It is fabulous to have someone you can call at 2am or even on your lunch hour when you need immediate gratification. But if we are single, why do we continue to find our booty calls within our own troupe I think the answer has to do with a certain comfort level we experience when we know the person for years on end.

Instead of looking to your best friend’s ex as your next lustful victim, try moving outside of the reassuring boundaries that your circle of friends creates. For one thing, dating every one else’s ex lovers can create a nasty situation in the future. We have all seen it happen. It can cause isolation, rifts between friendships and some nasty name calling to say the least. People need to look for new dating partners elsewhere. Try new venues, grand openings, meeting people at the gym or at that trendy new restaurant. We meet new people every day yet sometimes we fear those we don’t know. There is no reason to.

Dating outside the group will also help to keep your close knit friends even closer because you will completely avoid what could turn out to be a jealous rivalry between good friends. There are four million people in the city of Houston alone and even if you don’t live in a big city such as Houston, there are bound to be thousands of available singles right where you are. These statistics hardly compare to the number of your usual cohorts….you should be able to find compatible and yummy new companions in the dating sea of singles and singlets. Stop using your own fish bowl for fishing purposes.

Now, the Diva is not saying that you should go ahead and have crazy head banging sex with every new person you meet, although that would keep the condom supply and manufacturing economy sizzling. I am just saying that we need to get out more. There is so much diversity and wonderful new people to experience everyday in the big city so why not take full advantage of it Get out there and create new social groups, meet more people and dare the world to stop you.

For questions and comments contact The Advice Diva at thediva@advicediva.com

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About The Author

The Advice Diva has written three self-help guides on relationships and dating which can be found at http://www.advicediva.com. She also hosts an online advice column which is completely free of charge. The Diva does not claim to be an expert in any field. However, she has the ability to understand relationhips through past experience and her incredible insight. Aside from her website, the Diva also publishes monthly articles in two magazines and several notable websites.

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Wearing high heels is a way for a woman to accentuate her image and style. While there are different designs and fashions for high heels: from soft and classy to wild and bold, most women agree that adding high heels gives them a little bit of flair and edge that they really enjoy.

Choosing great looking high heels will make each night an evening to remember. There are an amazing variety of high heels to choose from. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for elegant high heels to match your favorite dinner dress, or you want something with a little more “kick” to it, you can find sleek, attractive high heels on the internet.

In prehistoric times skins or hides were probably tied around the foot for protection and warmth. The sandal, probably the earliest form of shoe, was worn in Egypt, Greece, and Rome; an early form of the boot was also known in Greece and Rome. The characteristic shoe of the Middle Ages was the soft, clinging moccasin, which extended to the ankle. It was highly decorated and was of velvet, cloth of gold, and, increasingly, of leather. Today the choices of shoes are great…wonderful styles and comfort.

If you select a quality pair of high heels you’ll feel confident in all situations.

About The Author

Mike Yeager Publisher http://www.a1-shoes-4u.com/ mjy610@hotmail.com

A little over a century ago Levi Strauss invented to first modern jeans. Introduced originally as rugged, durable clothing for hard working men and women, today all social classes feel comfortable in jeans. Trends and fashion icons come and go but wearing stylish, comfortable jeans is still favored by many people. . While their charisma springs from their legendary American roots, their commercial strength rests on innovation and interpretation in the hands of jeanswear makers around the world.

While the basic structure of jeans has remained the same, there have been some colorful innovations. Consider the Bell Bottoms of the 1970’s. Tight waisted and wide flaring bottoms. Yes, jeans are versatile and durable which is why they are such a hit with people. Who hasn’t enjoyed the feeling of slipping on an old comfortable pair of trusted jeans on a lazy Saturday morning They fit well and they look great.

There are so many styles of jeans to choose from. Whether you want to mow your lawn or dress up for a business meeting, jeans just fit the bill.

Shop for jeans, flare jeans, hipster jeans, bootleg jeans, classic cut jeans, hip hugger jeans, low rise jeans, bellbottom jeans stretch jeans, maternity jeans, carpenter jeans, straight cut jeans, ultra low rise jeans and much, much more. You can do all that from the comfort of your own home. And once you have your jeans, go show the world how great you look!

About The Author

Mike Yeager Publisher http://www.a1-fashion-4u.com/ mjy610@hotmail.com

Some people think that the word sexy and pregnancy do not belong together. I have to disagree. In fact, I have heard many men say that a woman is her sexiest and most beautiful when she is pregnant!

So, how do you go about feeling sexy when your belly is expanding and your body is going through so many changes So many women tell me they feel unattractive when they are pregnant, but they don’t have to!

The good news is that the days of the maternity tent dress are over! Today’s maternity wear is hip, trendy and yes, even sexy! http://maternitycorner.com/miva/merchant.mvScreen=CTGY&Category_Code=M The designers have brilliantly combined comfort and fashion in clothing that you can start wearing as soon as you discover you are pregnant right on through post-partum and beyond.

Just wearing your husband clothes may be economical – and they may fit fine over your expanding belly -- but they will not have a good fit everywhere else! Buying bigger sizes in regular clothes is also never a great idea if you want to feel good about yourself. I’m sorry to say you will just look bigger and feel frumpy.

There are several “basics” that every woman should have when she is pregnant. For your first pieces, try to stick with basics that will go with everything. A couple of good pairs of pants, jeans or skirts are a good place to start your lifestyle will determine which is best for you. Add a top or two and you are on your way! Then, as you "grow", add tops in fashionable prints and colors that will mix and match with your basics, giving you fresh new looks, as well an occasional, much needed, psychological boost. If you are really keen, splurge on some “not-so-practical” tops or bottoms to round out your maternity wardrobe. Remember, many of today’s styles can be worn after baby too!

If you cannot afford a whole new wardrobe, or even if you can and dont want to spend the money, you need to get yourself at least a couple of basics and one outfit that makes you feel beautiful and sexy -- there is no price for the way an outfit like this will make you feel!

Don’t forget your underwear! If your underwear binds you are not going to feel comfortable. There are so many great styles available now! And if you’re a thong wearer, there’s no reason to stop now. Maternity thongs, as well as the bikinis and briefs, are available in a wide variety of fabrics and colors.

Chances are you will probably require several different bra sizes throughout your pregnancy. No matter which type of bra you choose, fit is important. There should be room for expansion around the rib cage and room for expansion in the cup, but not so much that the bra does not provide adequate support. Have fun with your maternity and nursing bras -- there are so many options available!

There are also some great skin care products available now. Pamper yourself with some luxurious creams or body wash! Take some time out for you -- you deserve it!

Remember, when you feel good, you look great -- even sexy!

About The Author

Anne Cavicchi is a mom and owner of Annies Maternity Corner -- dedicated to providing a large collection of fashionable maternity and nursing wear to allow you to express your own style comfortably during and after pregnancy. We also carry all the products you will need for after your child is born. Accessories, diapers, sleepwear, breast pumps, playwear, and everything in between! http://www.maternitycorner.com

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Way back in 1998 is when vix swimwear made a name for themselves. They introduced some very sexy, high fashion, womens swimwear into the US market. From that point on theyve been a big hit when it comes to picking out swimwear for women. The goal of this company is to provide athletic women and teenagers with top of the line, quality swimwear, at great competitive market prices.

Another thing about their swimwear is its known for its excellent fit. Since the vix swimwear fits perfectly almost every time this results in a it lasting longer. You might wonder why this would make it last longer, but the answer is simple. If it fits perfect then it wont get worn out as fast. It will also be less likely to fade because of this, not to mention feeling more comfortable.

So if youre looking for some great swimwear then you might want to give vix swimwear a look at. They offer very sexy, unique colors & styles, they are Brazilian, and theyve also been featured in Victorias secret. There is much more to come from them within this year.

About The Author

Adam Murray is currently the webmaster and author of several websites, http://www.beach-supplies.com/, is one of his newer additions.

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With all the different styles and designs available for plus size swimwear even the people who are a little bit larger can be styling at the beach! First off all, you have your main 3 types of bikinis available in plus sizes, which are the 2 piece bikinis, 1 piece bikinis, and the tankinis. All these types of swimwear are available in plus sizes. Also, usually with the plus size swimwear it needs to be able to support more weight, at least in the upper chest area. This means that the support in the back is usually stronger and sometimes even has a cross shape to it.

Now when you’re ready to buy some plus size swimwear, you will be happy to know that buying it online is easy and more convenient. Although you shouldn’t be embarrassed to go your local store and browse through all the plus size swimwear, sadly enough a lot of people are. If this is the case, buying them online is a great way to avoid shopping in a retail store. It also can save you money, time, and find a better style that you like.

About The Author

Adam Murray is currently the webmaster and author of several websites, http://www.beach-supplies.com/, is one of his newer additions.

If your sexual tempo is decreased after sunny summer days do not be anxious! This is totally normal. You will find a few recommendations and a special formula for men to overcome these hard days on the next lines.

According to mythology, love goddess Aphrodite was known by her own formulated preparations and ointments that she gives to her lovers to increase their sexual power. This is the reason of why today we are calling all stimulating elixirs as aphrodisiacs. Nowadays men are not such lucky and we highly recommend to read this article to men who live in big cities.

Without doubt best aphrodisiacs are Sun, a good sleep and fresh air. A good sleep is necessary for the body to pack itself up, to increase its energy and revitalize its hormones. Sun light is a powerful doping for our body including sexual hormones. The main reason of mens vitality in holidays is being relaxed in fresh air. But in Autumns cloudy days some natural reinforcements may help a lot.

Magical power of foods:

Basil, clove, ginger, onion, tomato, radish, celery, egg, carrot, red pepper, oats, asparagus, fresh onion, chestnut, hazelnut, pistachio nut, coconut, cucumber, oyster, caviar are main foods to improve your sexual power. Having them in your weekly menu selections would be a wise choice. Specially, foods containing vitamin E like pistachio, almond, hazelnut and walnut are natural drugs for impotence and erectile disorders.

Red is good for mens vitality:

When we say aphrodisiacs we generally mean drugs for men because they must be active in sexual relationships. In other words, for a successful lovemaking they must be aroused and erected. For a man vigor red color is important. In astrology Mars represents man and its sexual power, and Marss color symbol is red. So, red colored foods and drinks are recommended for mans arousal. For example red pepper, red ginseng...

A man who is always wearing pale, pastel or dark colored dresses may get less excitations. Maybe this is the reason of using red lights, red under wares, red bed sheets... to create an erotic environment. Red coral or ruby stone are also good for increasing mans energy.

Women who feel sexually less active may also profit from red color and stones. But the must important aphrodisiacs for a woman is love and affection added into lovemaking.

As vegetal aphrodisiacs, vitamins are very helpful for a successful sex life. Specially vitamin E is vital for men. Beside pills you can get vitamin E through natural foods and specially hazelnut contains many minerals and essential fat acids. To overcome the fatigue syndrome due to modern life and high technology, vitamin B is also indispensable.

Avoid depression:

Remember that behind sexual troubles, many hormonal and nourishing disorders, and heavy depressions may exist. Also, after a serious depression or a nutrition disorder only a treatment of natural mixtures may not be sufficient, in such cases help of a psychiatrist sexologist or nutrition expert is needed.

Heavy training may be harmful:

For a healthy sexual life a light and not tiring training program is as important as vegetal aphrodisiacs. A light and regular exercise program will balance your metabolism and hormonal system to keep you sexually active. But beware of heavy and tiring training programs because an extra low fat texture may cause a performance decrease.

Yoga, meditation and many other positive energy techniques are recommended to purify your brain against stress and support sexual energy. Right breathing exercises are also important for a successful sex life. If you insist for heavy training please pay special attention for a regular and healthy nutrition.

A Special Booster Formula for Men:

Put 1 kg. of a good quality flower honey into a glass pot, add 250 gr. powdered ginger, 100 gr. powdered Indian saffron, 50 gr. peeled and pounded green cardamom, 1 gr. saffron, 5 gr. pounded coriander, 4 sweet spoons of pounded stinging nettle seeds, 2 sweet spoons of royal jelly, 4 sweet spoonful of pollen, 100 gr. unshelled and pounded pistachio nut and 100 gr. of pine nut. Stir and mix the whole with a wood spoon. You can store the pot in a cool and gloomy place. If you dont have any allergy or illness against those ingredients, eat one tablespoon 2 times morning and night in a day.

About The Author

Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amys Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amys Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.

Most of the questions asked to sexual health experts are about mens early ejaculations and womens orgasm troubles. When you read this you may say: Its normal, if man is coming off quickly, woman couldnt have an orgasm! But if you really think for a few seconds, surprisingly, you wont see any relation between these two events. Because, a man if he is not a boor, will prepare his woman to reach her orgasm before his ejaculation.

The other highly popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ What is the normal size How thick and long can be the biggest How small is acceptable for lovemaking

Every mans genital is different as his finger print and the role of the penis size in a happy and successful sexual relationship is not such important. At least you dont have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger! Even with a huge organ a mans chance is very limited to make her achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover and doesnt know proper sex techniques, most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasure.

Even a man who has a miniscule dick may be a perfect lover! The only way is to learn how to make better love, how to be a better partner, instead of being paranoiacly distressed. This is normal and this is your body, love it and try to use it more creatively and with more love. Kiss and caress every part of your partners body for long time, arouse her enough, and go down and give her a nice oral love... until she reaches the climax.

Believe me, every woman loves and prefers such a talented lover in the place of a big dick entering a few times into your vagina before spurting out and then sleeping in his side as nothing happened! Naturally!

Having a small organ is not a guilt, a crime, if he knows his body and has developed many better solutions he is absolutely a CLEVER man and a perfect lover!

In regard to early ejaculations... This, also, is not a crime and if the man has not an organic disorder, may be corrected with some effort. But many men, instead of paying attention to their situation, act like early coming off doesnt make any difference in their sex life! Which may be true!

Actually you may consider the natural disharmony between two genders. Men, by their nature, want to thrust into a hole when aroused and squirt in, thats all! But woman needs a prior preparation, a foreplay of at least 10-15 minutes to be concentrated and ready for insertion.

One woman likes this position, another may choose that position, many women request clitoris stimulation besides mens thrusting... Many fatiguing services asked from men! And furthermore, if a serious and passionate relationship doesnt exist between partners, men are really exhausted in the bed. Is a natural error, an innate lack of harmony exists between men and women

Let see some different type of early comers:

Type A: The worst. He doesnt even know he is an early comer. When he likes, he takes the woman under him and ejaculates. He doesnt care anything else! For the womans orgasm What is that He hasnt heard anything about womans orgasm!

Type B: He knows about womans orgasm but act like he doesnt know. Same of the Type A, he pulls the woman under and he comes off, the only difference, if by mistake or pain, woman makes a weak sound like "ah" he will suppose she reached an orgasm but for his comfort, he will never ask her the truth!

Type C: He knows his disorder, he is sad and wants to visit a doctor but he is shamed or cant find the time to go! As a foreplay he kiss and caress her a little but he cant wait and comes off. Sometimes he cant even find times to thrust his dick into her. He is sad but life goes on!

Type D: He is aware of his early ejaculation disorder but he also knows his partners orgasm right! So, he will kiss and caress her at great length, give her a great oral love and bring her to an orgasm. Then start to make love for himself and he comes off. Because his partner reached orgasm before his quick ejaculation there is no trouble. Partners are relaxed and happy!

That means, if a man is understanding and clever the early ejaculation is not an important obstacle on the way of a happy sexual relationship. Man may visit a doctor and try to find the main reason behind this disorder and get a treatment which is totally normal, but meantime he is kind and not selfish, gives her ultimate pleasures to reach her orgasm.

An absolutely good sex for a woman is a normal dick size, a foreplay at length, long kisses and caresses, staying inside her long enough with many thrusting, knowing her favorite positions and giving her the best pleasures... not insisting on what he wants, but understanding her and giving her what she needs to get her climax.

Please remember that if she has reached to one orgasm in her entire life, she knows the best position for her, and an intelligent man never insists on a new position which may cause a lack of concentration, he will follow her orientations.

Finally, what is the womans responsibility in creating a harmonious sexual relationship Women must talk and describe what they want clearly. Of course talking to the boors will not produce a positive result but intelligent men may understand your needs. Do not imitate orgasm or do not keep silent and sleep... talk to your lovers and kindly explain your desires, if not you will lose your sexual desires and even you wont be able to masturbate and get orgasm by yourself in the future!

About The Author

Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amys Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amys Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.

I recently had the unpleasant experience of turning thirty much to my chagrin. However, I will forever allege that this was not my fault. Time was moving much too swiftly and although I tried my best to stay in the sexy and swinging twenties, I lost my grip and fell flat on my face in my thirties. I am led to believe that I will not be allowed to return. The horror. The horror.

Aside from my momentary lapses of self pity, there are some great benefits to being a woman in her thirties. As you probably guessed from the title of this article, I am now in my sexual prime. It seems like a cruel joke. Guys cant think about anything but the tent pole in their pants while in their teens and early twenties. But by the time women get to the same stage, the men are calling in reinforcements of Viagra. I am sure you have all heard about this before. Women hit their sexual prime at thirty......or do they I almost half expected to become some raging ball of hormones as if I was pushed on by a button when I turned thirty. I was looking forward to it. To my dismay, no such transformation has occurred.

Shedding light on this curiosity of mine was Dr. Sandor Gardos, a doctor in sexual education. According to Dr. Gardos, the notion that women hit their sexual peak at 30 is very misleading. You will find many websites and articles on the very subject talking about how women get their groove on and peak at 30, or 35 while others say 40. But if you are talking about a hormone flux, this is simply not true. Men and women develop the same hormones at the same time: puberty. The only reason why women seem so much more interested at a later age is because we were taught NOT to be interested in sex when we were kids. If you experimented with sex like the boys did, you would be labeled the town Jezebel. Only when women mature are they able to feel more comfortable talking about and practicing sex. They finally open up and begin to feel normal about desiring sex.

Then it becomes a whole new world for women. The reason why people argue about the age of the sexual peak in women is because it varies for each women. It might take some women, for example, longer to learn how to orgasm. But when each woman finally feels comfortable with her body and the virtues of sex, it just might be like hitting puberty for her, especially if she had always lived a reserved or conservative life. This can be a great time in a womans life; a true sexual awakening. And if you measure a sexual peak by interest level, then you can say that she has hit her prime. On the other hand, there are some women who go wild and crazy in their twenties and never give a thought to those societal messages, i.e. “Good Girls Dont”. All things considered, these girls may not experience this sudden surge of sexual prowess at the 35 year mark. They have already experienced it all. Ahem. But not me, of course. I am an angel.

If there are any young guys out there who are tempted to seduce an older woman just because she may be in her sexual prime and easily lured by an open invitation, you may want to think again. However, it may interest all men and women to know that according to a recent publication in the Oxford Journals, women do experience a subtle phase of heat on a monthly schedule. Mid-month on her cycle to be exact. During this time, women are shown to be more attracted to androstenone a pheromone like sweat substance, are more attracted to symmetrical and masculine faces and more attracted to the subject of sex. Even as basic as this is, its still fun to talk about. In the same journal, I also uncovered a freaky fun fact. The word for heat, Estrus, comes from a Greek word oistrus which means Gadfly. Literally, it means in a frenzied state because when the gadflies would buzz around cattle, they would drive the cattle into a frenzied state which resembled the same state they go into when they wanted to mate. So when scientists refer to estrus in a female, remember that this concept originated from cows.

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Many professional freelancers will go their entire career without ever once writing a story about sex. Oh, they may craft a racy scene or two in the course of writing the next Great American Novel, or they might someday write an article about the latest in sexual research, but thats about as far as many writers will ever take the concept.

Then there are those freelancers who, for a variety of different reasons, have actually chosen to write and publish in the sex genre. Societal notions of perversity aside, these writers are of the same ilk as those who write about horses or gardening or education, its just that their subject matter is often more controversial. Still, the act of writing as a profession is the same no matter what the genre, although sex writing does require more of an open mind and is not, as a rule, for the more prudish among us.

But the basics - a bit of skill, a professional attitude, plenty of perseverance and a whole lot of research - are the same as for any genre.

Sex markets offer great opportunities for writers at all different levels of experience. For the fledgling writer there are many digest magazines that buy a lot of fairly well-written but rather formulaic stories. The pay for these pieces is, of course, lower than for other, higher-quality, markets but they do give the beginner a chance to earn money while honing his or her craft.

On the higher end of the scale are markets that demand excellence in plot structure and characterization. These magazines usually pay fairly well and are for writers who are experienced at more advanced techniques like dialogue, subtle humor and deftly nuanced characters.

In addition, the sub-classifications of the genre - letters, articles, stories and personal accounts - offer plenty of wiggle room when it comes to a writers ability and/or experience. Letters and essays are more of a train-of-thought process, and thus much easier for the beginner to write and sell than full-length stories or non-fiction.

This means that in sex markets, as in no other genre, a writer really can earn as she learns, starting at the lower paying markets and working her way up to the higher paying and higher quality fiction and non-fiction articles.

But dont make the mistake of thinking that, because the level of "quality" varies, you can be more lax in presentation and attitude when submitting to sex markets. Most of these editors appreciate professionalism just as much as their mainstream counterparts. Writers wanting to break into this market need to make sure that manuscripts are presented professionally and that phone calls or emails are returned promptly.

There are, however, some markets that operate in a more "casual" fashion. While this can occasionally work in your favor - a query for an article, for example, can be as simple as a one-sentence email - it can also be frustrating. Youll have to get used to the idea that not all of your submissions, queries and requests for guidelines will be acknowledged. Perseverance, so useful when writing in any genre, is even more of a requirement when writing for sex markets.

Another requirement is an exhaustive knowledge of your market and your audience. Sex markets tend to be even more specialized than mainstream markets; each magazine often targets a very specific personality as well as predilection. What this means is that in order to sell you have to do your research; youll need to study the magazine cover to cover and yes, that means the pictures, too. Of course, some sex writers look at that as a perk of their profession rather than a hardship, but thats another story. Its also imperative to request guidelines when possible because sex markets often are very specific as to style, point of view and word count; its important that you know exactly what theyre looking for before you submit.

Of course, the most important requirement when it comes to sex writing is that you enjoy doing it. Its an excellent choice for those writers who relish a challenge as well as those who enjoy stretching their imagination. Yes, its a job, as is writing for mainstream markets, and it requires the utmost in professionalism and commitment.

But writing about sex is also a whole lot of fun. Getting paid to do it, well, thats even better.

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Canada’s age of consent to sexual activity offers Canadian youth no protection from sexual exploitation. This has resulted in Canada becoming a preferred destination for sexual predators to prey on our innocent children. There is a need to protect out children and this should be the Governments highest priority.

In 1999 the Department of Justice's consultation paper view that the current age of consent was too low. In 2002 Over 40,000 people sent a letter to Justice Minister Cauchon asking that the age of consent be raised to 18. The Canadian Police Association has twice requested the age to be raised.

In early November 2004 , HELENA GUERGIS, MP prepared a petition asking the Martin Liberals to raise the age of sexual consent from 14 to 16 years of age. A copy of her petition is available in each of her offices. You can read MP HELENA GUERGIS thoughts at the following website. http://www.helenaguergis.com/view-Nov22_04.htm

It was in 1987, the Mulroney government reduced the age of consent for sex in the Criminal Code to age 14. Since that date the Liberal government has refused to amend this law and raise the age of consent to 18.

Our government is sending an open invitation for predators to focus on our children. Might I add now if a man sleeps with a 13 year old he is put away for rape.What does the difference of one year make as far as maturity ?

Something In Canada law is seriously wrong. Because of this low age a growing number of men are now targeting Canadian children for pornography and sex purposes.

C.A.S.E. has started a petition concerning asking the government to up the age of consent to 18.Click Here for Petition on the Age of Consent

As a Canadian I'm requesting you to please write to the Parliament of Canada to amend the Criminal Code of Canada and raise the age of consent for sexual activity from 14 years to 16 years of age.

Please write to:

Minster Paul Martin Prime Minister's Office 80 Wellington Street, 2nd Floor Ottawa, Ontario K1A 0A2 Tel: (613) 992-4211 Fax: (613) 941-6900

The Honourable Anne McLellan Minister of Justice Justice Building 284 Wellington Street Ottawa, Ontario K1A 0H8 Tel: (613) 992-4621 Fax (613) 990-7255

Your MP House of Commons Ottawa, Ontario K1A 0A6

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Got your attention? Everyone’s favorite subject. I’ll begin by stating again a myth that dies hard: That people over 60 [substitute your own age] aren’t having sex. Part of this is that we just don’t want to think of our parents as actually having sex, no matter how old they are, no matter how old we are. Guess what? Your parents are doing it. So are your grandparents. If they’re a healthy couple, that is, who enjoy each other and are still enjoying life. Sex over 60 is sublime. Sex under 60 is also sublime. In this article let’s look at the things that make sex over 60 sublime, in a humorous way, because some of the things that startle, amuse, and slightly embarrass you about your Granny are some of the things that can make sex under 40 sublime. 1. Your Mom arrives at your house and you’re having a discussion over breakfast cereal, and she says, “Monica, I hope you’re letting Harry make love to you with the lights on. Men like that, you know.” Put the blush away. She’s talking, and that’s what makes for good sex. Older folks don’t mince words. Get comfortable with anatomy, natural processes, and needs, and talk about them openly. Talking about what “embarrasses” you could be exactly what could save or enrich your marriage. And be open-minded. Some men like to make love with the lights on, some don’t. Some women like to make love with the lights on, some don’t. How will you know if you don’t ask? How will you know if you don't try it? 2. Granny comes to see your new baby boy and says, “Looks like his penis is healing just fine, Elberta." Those cute little phrases I won’t go into are fine for bonding, but they take something away in the long run. Call your body parts by their real names. This will both empower you, and demystify sex, and that’s a great combination. 3. You’re appalled at your mother-in-law’s lifestyle, and also a bit jealous. Since her husband died 5 years ago, she’s been living in a resort retirement community. She plays tennis and golf with her boyfriend, spends lazy afternoons by the pool, and they take long cruises. She looks 10 years younger, has a glow, and your husband says he’s never seen her happier. When they come to visit you, they’re always hugging and holding hands. You walk around a corner and catch them kissing! You MUST make time to approach this leisurely lifestyle with your partner. You must create a space for what comes naturally to occur, and in the midst of crying babies, promotions and downsizings, leaky faucets, dirty dishes, creeping kudzu, and dog-poop scooping, remember your dating days when you spent hours just gazing into each other’s eyes and touching. 4. Your Granpa comes over and says to you, “Son, you leave that pretty little filly alone like this and she’s gonna jump the fence and go lookin’. When’s the last time you [wink wink nudge nudge].” The words may make you squirm. The message may too, because it’s not about denial. What’s going on has been labeled, the consequences outlined, and the solution presented. It works. Try it. Your own style, words, and timing, of course, with knowledge of your wife, not his or anyone else’s. 5. Your Mom says, “Jen, when I walk in here I can cut the tension in the air. There’s something you and Nick aren’t dealing with.” If you deal with what comes up when it comes up, there won’t be tension in the air. Time and experience teach us to read other people’s emotions, take the temperature in the air, and become more empathic, which makes for great relationships. You can jumpstart this process by studying Emotional Intelligence with a certified EQ coach. 6. Dinner’s over and your parents are leaving. Your father, a man of few words says, “Anne, your mom and I are coming over next weekend to take care of kids while you and Anthony get away. No arguments.” Make this time. Money is not the crucial component. Put the kids down for Saturday naps and have your own getaway. If there is money, hire a sitter and go to a hotel for a weekend – somewhere with that resort community atmosphere that’s letting your mother-in-law have so much fun. 7. Aunt Grace is over and she’s talking about her health again. Staying on top of your physical health is important. Dysfunction and displeasure can have a physical component. Start with a physical checkup if your desire or capacity has faltered. 8. Mimi’s sitting on the patio with you. “I just read the other day,” she says ... Read, study, stay abreast of what’s new. There’s so much on the Internet that’s easy access. 9. “The secret to a good marriage?” your Uncle Ben is saying, "It's ...." Unless you want a room-mate who does your laundry [mows the lawn], get your marriage and sexual relationship out of the realm of “mysterious and mystical.” Try telling someone you can’t stand garlic in your mashed potatoes without using the words “mashed potatoes,” “garlic,” and “can’t stand.” If you have trouble getting started on communicating there are wonderful relationship, marriage and sex coaches, counselors, and therapists ready to help! It’s worth it. 10. Take it up a notch. When your six-year-old daughter doesn’t like the way you comb her hair, she screams, fidgets, pulls away, cries, pushes you away, runs to her room and slams the door shut, says it makes her head hurt, and learns to tell when it’s coming and disappears at these times. You connect the dots. Sex. It does a body good. Deal with it like grown ups do! Talk! Take The EQ Foundation Course©, and start improving your EQ today. ©Susan Dunn, MA, Personal Life and EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . 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There are few things I have learned in my days in the bedroom. For those of you who have the problem of blowing your load at warp speeds keep reading. I am not going to lie my first time I only lasted three pumps. It was very embarrassing but I couldn’t help it because I wasn’t ready for it to feel so good. Here is a list of three things I advise you guys to do since girls have the power of multiple orgasms which must be nice and we have to wait 5-10 to regain hardness.

Always throw down a quick beat before you go out for the night. Most of you might think that you are running too late or whatever your excuse is but there is no excuse it is worth your time. If you drain the pipes before hand it will make you last longer.

Masturbate at least once or twice a day everyday. When you are about to blow stop, pinch off the head, wait about 5 seconds then go again. Repeat this many times it will create mind control and stamina. You will last so long the girl will think you are a sexual monster or you get laid all the time with a shit load of experience. Also it always helps me to where a jimmy because it takes away a lot of the suction which leads to blowing it.

When you are bangin’ NEVER think about what you are doing. The second I think about how good it feels, how good it looks going in, or any of that nasty shit it’s over. What I like to do is think about what my plans for the next day or a conversation I had with someone else. As long as you keep your mind away from what is happening you will go on and on. Always be sure that the women gets off first then you go. It is common courtesy and it will lead to more in the future.

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There is no single man who would not want to meet a woman who is beautiful, intelligent, educated, fit, stylish and sexy.

All men want a girlfriend like this!

The problem is there are not many girls possessing those qualities that are unattached and available. Girls like this usually have a string of admirers and an attitude. You might even think they are out of your league.

Think again!

In your country, this may be true… But the world is so much bigger than that! In some countries, things are exactly the opposite way around: there is a huge shortage of nice, intelligent and stable single men!

Take Eastern Europe for example: the latest statistics from The Economist show that in places like Russia and Ukraine there are only 88 men for 100 women! In Russia alone, there are 10 million more women than men!

It means there are TEN MILLION WOMEN that will NEVER find a partner!

Historically, during 20th century, women in Russia always outnumbered men, with World War 2 that took lives of 20 million Soviet people, and other 20 million people that died in Stalin’s concentration camps. 90% of them were men.

At that time, for a Russian woman, simply having a man was a blessing!

This created a unique situation between the genders where women were forced to perfect their looks in order to find and keep a mate.

Check Russian dating sites: you will find there thousands beautiful girls that are looking for a partner: well groomed, fashionable and stylish, they will leave you breathless.

Read about their education and you will be stunned: most of them possess advanced university degrees.

Don’t be surprised: about 60% of people in Russia have college or university degrees, others have completed at least 2-year professional training. The system of professional education was inherited from the Soviet times, where young people were required to attend professional training after completing the mandatory high school qualification. They don’t have equivalents of associate or honors degrees, and the person has to complete at least 4-year degree, or they don’t receive ANY qualification. This is how the state convinces young people to complete their studies. (By the way, education and medical are still f*r*e*e in Russia.)

On Russian dating sites, you will find thousands women that are beautiful, intelligent, educated, fit, stylish and sexy – and at the same time unattached and available.

And they are looking for nice, intelligent and stable guys - just like you!

The bad news is, you will never be able to meet them…

Why?!

Because you never look at Russian dating sites. You have this attitude that “mail order brides” are something a decent man will never consider: it is only desperate losers that would look for a partner at such sites. You read in press horror stories about “mail order brides” and this phrase is strongly connected in your mind with such topics as violence, abuse, sexual exploitation, trafficking in women and immigration scams. You believe that men that seek wives abroad simply cannot find anybody in their own country and seek obedient, submissive wives. Do you?

Well, then you are for a wake up call. There is no such a thing as “Russian mail order brides” – no more than there is Santa Claus!

There are Russian women seeking suitable partners. Those women are not desperate to leave their country and are proud of their inheritance and culture. They are educated, intelligent, and smart. They are not going to become intimate submissives or maids. They will not tolerate infidelity or abuse. They truly seek SUITABLE partners and will not jump on anybody, just to get out of their misery.

In fact, they do NOT consider their life miserable! On her average salary, a Russian woman can afford to attend live performances and beauty saloons a few times a month, buy best-selling books, latest fashion and Italian shoes.

Actually, I used to have much more exciting life in Russia with overseas vacations and quality entertainment than I have now, living in the west!

The same is applicable to many Russian women seeking partners abroad. They are articulate, sophisticated, well read and well traveled.

Obedient, submissive “Russian mail order brides” do not exist!

You don’t have to believe my word.

Read what American men say about that: http://www.womenrussia.com/eight_reasons.htm

P.S. Personally, I hate this label “mail order brides”. I believe it is a disgrace to imply a human being can be ordered as an item, and the sacred companionship of marriage may be purchased as an electrical toothbrush from mail order catalog.

C’mon guys! So called “mail order brides” services do not sell women. They sell access to contact information of their members, that’s it – just like you join a local singles club and they give you contact details of people that may be interested in meeting you. Russian dating agencies also have socials like speed dating services where interested men and women can meet each other. Only men and women, themselves, decide whom they want to date. You cannot buy a bride!

It is 21st century, pals!

Wake up – and smell the roses! :-))

Elena Petrova is well known in the Russian dating industry by her website Russian Brides Cyber Guide (http://www.womenrussia.com), which is an informational source about Russia and Russian women. Check Elena's latest e-book "How To Find And Marry A Girl Like Me" (http://www.womenrussia.com/book) and see what kind of women you can meet at so called "mail order brides" websites!

This article gives you a way to get your life together in a sexy way. Each time you use this method, you will get sexier. (!) From the almost world famous Time Management Guru, Christina Frei.

OK, so you’re wondering exactly how time management could be sexy. Frankly, I don’t blame you. Time management can tend to be littered with unsexy words like “priorities” and “schedules” and “task lists.” So let’s begin with a simple question: when was the last time you felt sexy when you were stressed out? Yeah, exactly. And this isn’t about those quadrants or charts that your boss uses, either. Time management can be a turn on! Yup! Read on, my friend.

So the biggest cause of stress: the feeling of NOT GETTING ANYWHERE. Work, work, work, sad results. Just a piddly pittance paycheck and no time left over. Sound familiar? Say no more, say no more. Adopt a bit of sexy time management, you will actually feel good about your life. Guaranteed. Do I look like I’m selling used cars?

Let’s start with a fundamental. This is the rocket science portion of this article. How are you going to feel like you’ve accomplished something? Simply by recognizing what you’ve already done. Phew, I know, going too fast for ya, I know.

So try it on for size. Write down 10 things that happened yesterday that you feel good about. And no cheating – you have to come up with 10 things. Go ahead, I’ll wait. These are yours and yours alone. No one else has to see these, so write whatever you want.

Examples:

I heard from my friend Michael today and it was good to hear from him

I got a paycheck yesterday and it felt good to deposit it in the bank

My house is in a nice neighborhood Got it? You have to mean them, by the way. OK, all yours.

Sexy Time Management Tool 1: The Day Plan Now to get more official. You’re wondering, “That’s great, Christina, but how does this help me be sexier?” Boy, aren’t we a little impatient? Bear with me, friend. Sexiness is coming soon. OK, here is tool 1 (roll up your sleeves – but maybe don’t show too much arm).

Get a writing utensil and a sheet of paper. You’re doing great (and you look good too). Now fold the paper in half the long way, so you have two lovely columns. Woo hoo! Now write the day and date on the top left corner and the word “Thanks” underneath that. And write “Day Plan” on the top right corner. Like so…

Thursday, 3/4 Thanks... Day Plan

Now two assignments:

On the left, write a list of all the stuff you’re thankful for that you experienced yesterday. Fill up that side of the paper completely, even if you have to stretch it. This will begin the sexy-feeling process. Examples: “-for the understanding things my husband said.” “-for my safe neighborhood.”

On the right side, now that you’re feeling that glow, write up your official task list. What’s up for today? Include all tasks, personal, professional, and everything in between. Since you just listed all the juicy things from yesterday, your task list will be that much sexier and will continue to grow sexier the more you do it. You’re letting the Law of Attraction (“like attracts like”) bring you more sexiness.

For the Hairy Days: Addendum to the Day Plan

Here’s how you really sucker punch your hairy, scary days (the ones with 20+ tasks) and make them sexy.

Write “A” next to all the things that have to get done today.

Write “B” next to things that can wait until tomorrow.

Write “C” next to the “nice to haves.”

Enumerate the “A’s” in order of importance. A1, A2, A3. Then the B's and the C's. For example:

a. A1 Think sexy thoughts

b. A3 Pay Rent

c. A2 Say something sexy to spouse

d. A4 Go to work and make some dough.

The beauty is that you can be as organized (i.e. anal) as you want!

Congratulations. You’ve conquered your day and you know what to do. People who know what to do are super sexy. And you’ve reminded yourself of the excellent stuff in your life, which will relax you, which will make you glow, which will make you even sexier. Consider purchasing a fly swatter to fend off your new fans!

Be sure to check out Part II in the series, “The Art of a Sexy Week."

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This article is by Life Coach and Sexy Time Management specialist, Christina Frei. Christina is devoted to your sexy life, and has a newsletter, "Too Sexy for Myself" that keeps you organized and laughing. When you join, you'll get a "Too Sexy for Myself" Starter kit. Join at www.littlevikinginc.com.

Who is the happiest person in America? USA Today featured Happiest Person in a cover story in its USA Weekend magazine. Bad news: it's not you. Nor is it me.

Just how did they find Happiest Person and determine that he is indeed the happiest person in America? The USA Today research team appears to have used an elegantly simple three-step process.

First, they identified "the world's leading authority on happiness", Martin Seligman ... which must have come as a wee bit of a surprise to several of his equally well-known and equally well-respected peers. How they picked Seligman remains more of a mystery than how a land-locked nation of mountains and yodeling became home to the holy grail of yachting, but we are working feverishly to crack the code.

Next, they asked Seligman to name six principles of happiness. Seligman listed couple strengths, a win-win approach, savoring success, playing to one's strengths, opening doors to opportunity and finding meaning in life.

Finally, they applied Seligman's principles to determine who best matches them. Naawww, just kidding. That would make way too much sense. Instead, USA Today created a make-believe process of its own that stands out from Seligman's list like the Jolly Green Giant at a dwarf convention. Here is the USA Today process.

Geography. It seems that Happiest Person must live in the best place to live, which is Virginia Beach, in case you didn't know. If somebody even happier than Happiest Person lives in San Francisco or Vermont, the USA Today research team does not want to know.

Why confine their search to one town? Could geography be the secret to happiness that Seligman failed to mention? True, research does show that people living in free societies tend to be happier than others, but there is no evidence that where you live within the free world makes a difference.

Sex. Women are prone to higher emotional highs and lower emotional lows, whereas men are prone to more constant emotions. So Happiest Person must be a man, concludes USA Today. While the science does hit the bull's eye, the conclusion misses the barn wall. I suppose they'll be telling us that Seattle is the sunniest spot in America because the weather fluctuates less than in The Sunshine State.

Family. Happiest Person is married, has children, and is healthy. People with intimate relationships do tend to be happier, and marriage is a fairly good indicator (especially for men). And health is important. These may not be among Seligman's six principles, but let's not argue against good health.

Money. Happiest person has a "good, dependable job" as a stockbroker, a 2,300 square foot house (with an eat-in kitchen and a deck!). The truth comes out – money does buy happiness, according to the USA Today research team.

In fact, studies show that money makes a difference only if it elevates a person above the poverty level. When a person has means enough not to struggle for basic necessities, money rarely buys happiness.

Brand-awareness. This one must have made the big ad agency tycoons drool in their Corn Flakes. Happiest Person is for real because he likes all the right brands! He "digs" Coca-cola, so he must be the real thing. And he loves Craftsman tools and Dell computers. Say no more.

Where does the USA Weekend exposé leave the rest of us? If you are a little old lady enjoying retirement in Atlanta or a student conquering new fields of knowledge in Ann Arbor, you clearly are not happy enough for USA Today. But cheer up, even The Happy Guy eats "donuts" rather than "Krispy Kremes".

David Leonhardt is the Happy Guy, author of "Climb your Stairway to Heaven: the 9 habits of maximum happiness". Sign up for your free "Daily Dose of Happiness" at http://www.TheHappyGuy.com/daily-happiness-free-ezine.html, or visit the Self-actualization Resource Center at http://www.TheHappyGuy.com/self-actualization-articles.html.

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Well let me explain. When I was a kid, I would go to these auctions looking for things for my Science projects and everything was bid on so you knew how much it was going to be if you put a bid in on something. So that day I had found a few things I could use for my Science projects, so I started heading out the door.

As I was walking out the door, I could hear the auctioneer saying. "And this next item can give you a great massage."

Then I remembered that my Mom said a few days ago that she wished she could get a massage for her stiff neck.

So, I thought. "Christmas is coming soon, this might be a nice gift for Mom."

Then I heard the auctioners voice say. "Doesn't anyone else want to bid on this massager?"

So I raised the bid by 25 cents more, no one else put another bid in for it, so I got the thing.

I noticed I got a few funny looks from the people at the auction.

But I thought. "They're probably wondering what I'm doing at the auction."

I was the only Kid there, and I was still in grade school.

So, I got home, and wrapped up what I thought was just a massager for your neck or something and put it under the tree for Mom. Of course I was a bit perplexed why the bottom edge was so rounded.

But I thought. "Maybe that makes it vibrate better or something."

So, when Christmas came, everyone was there, my Grandparents, Uncles, Aunts and very close family friends. I watched my Mom as she opened up my present, and I noticed that she had a very surprised look on her face.

Then, I thought. "Good, I really surprised her."

But then I noticed that my Dad and my Grandparents also had a very surprised look on their face.

But as I explained to my Mom, that. "I got that for her, so that she could massage her neck." Everyone starting laughing. I couldn't figure out what was so funny.

Then my Dad said to me. "Could you help me take some things from the kitchen."

When we got into the kitchen, my Dad explained to me, what the vibrator was used for, and why it was shaped that way. When I asked my Dad.

"Why would any woman want to use a vibrator there?

My Dad just said. "I'll explain that to you another time."

So, I had bought my Mom a sex toy for Christmas. But at least Mom forgave me for my oversight. After still giving me a hug for the thought at least, I realised that day, just how much my Mom really loved me.

"Yes, it was a learning experience."

ABOUT THE AUTHOR This is yet another segment that I took from my epic story named Tiffany Stone. http://www.freewebs.com/episodesofjacques/tiffanystone.htm

During my twenties and thirties, it was my goal to have sex, at least once, with every physical type of woman on the planet.

I’d prefer not to hear any stuff about this. I was proceeding from the belief that by sleeping with a representative of every kind of female body, and every category of appearance, I would come, in effect, to know all women and that such an accomplishment would be good for my writing.

Okay?

Of course, even to gather only samples from what, you realize when you get into it, is a vast assortment of sizes, shapes and physiognomies, would have meant putting up numbers comparable to Wilt Chamberlain’s. And being all of five-foot-six, more skinny than slim—and with a nose you would think must obstruct my vision—I’d obviously set my bar too high. But spurred by the promise of the literary rewards that even limited success would yield, I determinedly pursued my objective, and had it not been for a prostate gland the Harvard School of Medicine will surely make a bid for upon my demise, I’d probably have been at it much longer.

Middle-aged now and long out of the hunt, I’m forced to concede that my writing would have been better served by writing more and researching less. Still, the time spent on my project wasn’t entirely wasted. Collateral though it may be, I did reap one unanticipated and very practical benefit. If my collection of memories isn’t as comprehensive as I’d have wished (if variations on the theme of plainness are more than adequately represented but girls who look like Nicole Kidman and Jennifer Connelly are glaringly missing), mental snapshots of the women I was able to cop are, in their quantity and variety, more than sufficient to save me the price of a subscription to “Jugs.”

And, indeed, I have been left with a story or two to tell.

Not least for the adventure it amounted to, a hookup I think of a lot was with a twenty-something woman named Peggie who’d just days before—and for the first time—come to New York from the Midwest on a month-long vacation.

We met in a bar. I was standing alone, casing the action, when I heard, right behind me, the sound of a sharp quick fart—like a wooden match striking. Turning to look I confronted a sight only the word “humongous” could accurately depict—a female at least a foot taller than I was and approximately the width of the Great Wall of China.

She was smiling flirtatiously at me and, though taken aback by her appearance (not to mention her method of getting my attention) and reflexively recoiling, I quickly recovered when I realized the opportunity she was presenting me with. Here was my chance to cross gross obesity from the list of body types I hadn’t yet scored.

In a brief conversation—during which it occurred to me that she’d be almost agreeable-looking if she just lost 300 pounds—Peggie told me she was a cashier at a Kalamazoo, Michigan supermarket (a career chosen, she readily admitted, for the substantial food discount it offered); that she had once played a Packard convertible in a high school production of “Grease,” and that her parents had tragically expired in a suicide pact just weeks after her birth.

Then she invited me to her hotel room.

(As we were leaving, I saw the bartender, who could not, of course, have understood my agenda, shaking his head in disbelief.

“That’s it,” he nudged the customer slouched in front of him. “Right there—that dude. That’s the definition of drunk.”)

At her hotel, to which we necessarily took separate cabs, the first thing Peggie did was crack open, and inhale, the complete contents of a package of Mallomars. Then, from a utility-kitchen refrigerator, she retrieved and devoured (in exactly what order I don’t recall) a container of chicken wings, a combo plate of tacos and an economy-size tub of Velveeta.

Finally she put a Barry Manilow tape into her boom box.

Now it’s not that I mind Barry Manilow all that much, but the more appropriate musical accompaniment to the night’s activities would have been the theme from “Raiders of the Lost Ark.” The thing was—and my insistence that we leave on no more than the bathroom light was definitely a contributing factor—I could not for the life of me find Peggie’s vulva. I’d heard that this was a common occurrence with very fat women, and especially with very fat women in poor lighting, but it still took a lot longer than I would have expected. What was compounding the problem? Simply put, Peggie’s body could have served as a Special Forces training ground for the field of hazards and challenges it presented. I’m speaking of the twisting climbs and sudden valleys, the crags, the craters and the amazing plenitude of gullies, ravines and bogs that I was, and on my hands and knees, obliged to negotiate and traverse in my search. A dismaying project to begin with, my progress was further impeded by an extraordinary number of ambiguous fissures and crevices that, not quickly identifiable, required time-consuming investigation and study. You wouldn’t believe how many deceptive nooks and seductive crannies I came across. In fact, at one point, when I thought for sure that I’d located and entered the secret cave, I discovered, to my chagrin, that I’d inserted myself inside of what was only a fold of fiercely perspiring epidermis. What’s more, I realized, when I looked up, that I was seriously lost in some apparently outlying district of Peggie’s anatomy.

You’re thinking that I had only myself to blame, that not to stop and ask for directions is typical of a man. Well, I swear, I was just about to when I heard, in the distance, what sounded like the swift currents of a babbling brook. Groping my way toward the sound it increased in volume until it was a deafening roar and I knew I was directly above its source. Reasonably confident that I’d located Peggie’s stomach, I paused to collect myself and survey my surroundings. In the absence of a compass I was looking for some sort of marker with which to establish my coordinates. When I noticed that the horizon ahead of me was blocked by an especially pronounced elevation in the terrain, I reasoned that I was likely facing north. With a cautious optimism I began, then, to crawl slowly backwards. You can imagine the rush I got when before too long my toes were caressed by a soft and lush foliage, and then bathed in the gentle bubbling of a warm spring.

I was at last at the pleasure grove.

Feeling like a world-beater, I was glowing with a sense of accomplishment and I have to confess that I indulged myself in a moment of pride. Relying on my instincts and wit, persevering in the face of exceptional difficulties, I had achieved an elusive goal other men would certainly have given up on. The moment was short-lived however. After effecting penetration my mettle was tested some more. Twice I was jettisoned (and put in jeopardy of becoming a ceiling fixture) by the astonishing power of Peggie’s pelvic motion. It was really disappointing. Each time I was forced to go back to square one and I had to reach deep inside myself for a sticktoitiveness that I wasn’t at all sure I possessed. But I hung tough and on my third expedition, with my eyes now accustomed to the dark, I was recognizing landmarks and proceeding with dispatch. At the treasure chest within minutes, I managed, this time, to more or less stay put and, let me tell you, like clinging to the back of a great whale in a high sea, those final seconds were every bit as exhilarating as the Splash Mountain ride at Disney World.

In the morning, Peggie, cheery and humming to herself (doubtless never before the object of such committed attention), seemed unaware of my odyssey. After eating a cake, and washing it down with a quart of chocolate milk, she asked me if she could take a time-delay Polaroid of the two of us naked in bed. (Should you ever come across this picture, I am in it. That’s the top of my head, not a puppy, just behind her left ankle.) Then she announced that she was cutting her trip short and returning home. There was no reason, she said, to remain in New York now, because no big-city experience that she might imagine could possibly surpass her night with me.

Having completed my mission and worried she’d suggest that we get together again, I was enormously relieved by and immediately supportive of her decision.

As I departed though, I did sense from her expression that she was maybe a little ambivalent about changing her plans; that she was thinking of something she might later regret missing. Not wishing to prolong the moment I chose not to ask any questions, so I’ll never know just what the thing was. Yes, it could have been the Transit Museum or the Edgar Allan Poe Cottage. But I suspect that more likely on her mind was forgoing the chance to discover a new food group.

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none Get In The (Erogenous) Zone

Guys, while you're heading for the obvious - lips, breasts, clitoris - don't overlook these other erogenous zones.

DRACULA WAS A SMART DUDE Come up behind her, push her hair away from the back of her neck, and deliver soft, warm kisses. Watch for goose bumps and listen for moaning - good indicators that you're on the right track!

TONGUE ROLEX Lightly graze the inside of her wrists with your tongue. Most guys overlook this 'hot spot', and most women adore the attention. Follow up with soft kisses in the same area and, if you like, work your way up her arm.

BEND AN ELBOW The soft skin on the delicate curve on the inside of a woman's elbow is packed with nerve endings. Kiss her there and watch her whole body shiver as the sensations go through her.

HAIR RAISING Scalp massage is stimulating to the brain AND other parts of the body. Running your fingers through your partner's hair creates a series of wonderful sensations. And, more importantly this brain tickle causes her body to release endorphins, which dramatically affect her sense of calm and well being for the better.

THE BEE'S KNEES If you're stroking your partner's legs, pay particular attention to the area behind her knees. Massage it gently to start because some women are overly sensitive and get ticklish, rather than turned-on. If her response lets you know that she's enjoying what you're doing, replace your fingers with your lips and tongue.

EAR-GASM Nibble and gently suck on her earlobe, then lick the center of her ear. Doing this alone with a certain facility (and with a certain woman) can bring her to orgasm. This phenomenon is called the auricologenital reflex and occurs as a result of a nerve inside the ear canal being stimulated. (Take it easy - that's our last science lesson!).

FANCY FOOTWORK Women have pedicures for more than just the color. A foot message is sensual and, if the right person is doing it, extremely sexual. Start by applying light pressure on your partner's sole and heel Next, you can gently stroke her toes and ankle.

Tip within a Tip: The hollow area on the sides of her ankle, between the anklebone and the Achilles tendon, is an acupressure point believed to help restore sexual energy. Don't miss it.

FROM ONE SET OF LIPS TO THE OTHER Get to know the frenulum -- that little bit of center tissue that connects the upper lip and the gums. This is a pressure point that sends messages straight to a woman's private parts. Gently suck on her upper lip and allow your lower lip to caress her frenulum. If she likes it, you'll see (and feel) a reaction immediately.

ABOVE AND BEYOND THE CALL OF BOOY Apply a gentle touch--just barely grazing the skin--to the sacrum, the area of her lower back just above the tailbone. As her skin heats up under your hand, apply increasing pressure to either side of her spine…but not directly on it. Then move lower to massage the tops of her buttocks. Try it. She'll like it.

EXPANDING THE ZONE When properly stimulated, a woman's entire body becomes an erogenous zone, sending sexy electrical impulses to the brain from such likely places as the sides of the legs, the chest, even the elbows. Simply glide your hands down her whole body from her armpits to her legs, then back up again. Do it right, and she'll squirm with pleasure. Hot stuff.

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*Dress up in a red garter and stocking or a red negligee and heels with a red rose between your teeth and do a sexy strip tease for your lover.

*Send them roses. Go to the flower shop to make the order and give them an enclosed envelope to send with the flowers. In the envelope leave a loving/naughty message telling them how much you love them or care for them and what delicious things you are going to do with their body.

*Write them an erotic story detailing all their favorite techniques, positions, and desires. For example if they particularly love oral, then go into great detail focusing on all the specifics of what you know they love.

*In your Valentine’s Day card, hand write your feelings, telling them how special and important they are. Enclose a sexy message telling them what is going to happen this evening.

*Make your own Valentine’s card. Take a nice naked, sexy photo of yourself and glue it inside the card with a sexy story or sexy message of what you would like down to your body.

*Buy your lover a box of chocolates and tell them they must eat them off of your body where you will strategically place them. This will be incredibly fun and pleasurable for both of you.

*Buy yourself a beautiful piece of lingerie that you know your partner will love and surprise them by serving their dinner while wearing it. More than likely dinner will be pushed aside till later!

*Give your lover an erotic massage with your hands, lips and tongue, from the tips of their toes to the top of their head.

*Call your lover at work during the day and tell them how hot and wet you are and how you can’t wait until they get home to ravage their body. Tell them you aren’t wearing any panties or bra and that you are going out shopping. This will be a lovely image to stimulate them through the day and set the mood for the evening. Actually go through your day without the bra and panties and you will find yourself feeling very sexy and aroused as well.

*Give your lover a show. Write a little invitation for them telling them to meet you in the bedroom or (whatever room) at a specific time for a special show for their eyes only. Leave the note on the mirror or with their breakfast or something like that. Be waiting for them in the designated spot, naked, and then masturbate for them.

These suggestions are sure to put some spark and sizzle in your Valentine’s Day. (Enjoy!)

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed is a writer, educator, therapist/advisor/coach and holistic health consultant specializing in Erotic Communication, Sexual Intimacy, Soul Satisfying Sex as well as issues of living with chronic illness, chronic pain or disability. Sexuality services can be found at http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul and Chronic illness services can be found at http://www.holistichelp.net

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5 Sexual Myths Destructive to Your Relationship by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

In this era where sex seems to be on the mind of everyone and talked about more openly than ever before, it is surprising that there continues to be a lot of misinformation and misconceptions. These myths perpetuate unhealthy patterns of relating, expectations and satisfaction and have the potential to destroy a relationship.

Don’t allow your relationship to be prey to the following myths:

1. A Good Relationship Shouldn’t Have Any Sex Problems All couples will probably experience some sexual problems at some point. This does not mean your relationship is over or not a good one. If the problems are not addressed and worked out, then your relationship could be in jeopardy, but the mere existence of problems is not a sign of failure, it’s a normal part of relationships. Your partner’s sexual needs may change over time. Stress and major life changes are an inevitable part of everyone’s life. These kinds of issues can cause change in levels of desire, satisfaction etc. and will require periods of adjustment.

2. Size Matters This simply is not true. In an attempt to make money, the media continues to keep this destructive myth alive, making men feel inadequate and self-conscious. They set up expectations that are impossible for a man to live up to and make them falsely believe that this is what a woman wants. This is absurd. You do not need a big penis to be an incredible lover and satisfy your woman. Only the first third of a woman’s vagina has nerve endings for feeling, the other two thirds has no feeling, so even a small penis is quite capable of stimulating the first third. What are most important to a woman is what kind of lover you are, what kind of person you are, how you feel about her and how you treat her. Making your woman feel loved, special, cherished, appreciated and desired will make sex great for her.

3. A Woman Should Orgasm with Intercourse Alone The majority of women cannot orgasm with intercourse alone, regardless of how big the penis is, because it does not provide sufficient stimulation to the clitoris. Many couples struggle needlessly, believing that one of them is doing something wrong if they are not able to achieve this. Using positions that stimulate the clitoris during intercourse may work for some, such as the woman on top or the riding high missionary. You can also stimulate the clitoris with a finger or a vibrator during intercourse or give your woman her satisfaction by pleasuring her orally or manually.

4. My Partner Should Know How to Pleasure Me Without My Telling Them Your partner is not a mind reader. Lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in sexual dissatisfaction. Yes, most people know the basics, but everyone has unique sexual needs that only they are aware of. You must teach your partner what it is that you need. Don’t be shy! Be specific and detailed.

5. It Shouldn’t Take Work to Keep Passion Alive Yes, we would all love to live in the land of fairy tales, but unfortunately it just does not exist! Once again the media is largely responsible for promoting an ideal that just isn’t realistic. Relationships go through cycles and levels of passion will vacillate. In the early stages of love passion is a blazing inferno that can’t be put out and doesn’t require any work, but as the relationship progresses, passion will not stay alive without effort. You must nurture your relationship to keep passion alive.

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a sex advisor/educator and author helping monogamous couples increase intimacy, be better lovers and keep the passion alive. She is also author of the hot new sex guide for couples titled, Smoldering Embers-Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple’s Fire. Subscribe to her FREE Monthly Ezine, Smoldering Embers, and get hot sex tips, techniques and secrets guaranteed to keep the Sizzle in your love life. http://www.smolderingembers.com/

An article about some of the problems women encounter with sex, and strategies to overcome those difficulties. Have you ever wondered whether other women, lesbian or straight have problems with sex? Do you worry that you're the only one who makes passionate love at the beginning of a relationship and then withdraws? Or perhaps you enjoy making love to your partner, but feel uncomfortable receiving sexual pleasure? If any of these sound familiar, you are not alone.

Barriers to Feeling Comfortable with Your Sexuality

While we may believe that sex should flow naturally and easily, the reality is often different. It's no wonder, given all that we're up against--sexism, heterosexism, and homophobia; society's repressed attitudes about sex generally and especially about women's sexuality; messages we receive from famililes, religion, schools, and the media about women, lesbians, and sex; and the fact that so many girls and women are sexually assaulted. It's remarkable that we feel comfortable with sex at all!

Patience and Awareness

If you're having a hard time with any aspect of sex, the best thing you can do for yourself is to be patient and understanding. Freeing yourself of pressure, blame, or criticism is crucial to moving through any obstacle you face.

A good starting place is to simply pay attention to everything that you feel as soon as you are aware of feeling uncomfortable. If you are numbing, or shutting down, you'll want to figure out how you felt immediately prior to that.

* How does your body react? * What body sensations do you notice? * Do you hold your breath? * Does your heart quicken? * What are your thoughts? * Do you see or sense images, sounds, smells, or tastes? * What do you notice before and during the point you start to feel uncomfortable or begin to numb yourself?

Being aware of your own experience and responses is an important first step. This awareness helps you be in your body and be present with yourself. These are important elements for being able to relax and enjoy sex. This does not mean that you suddenly feel comfortable with sex, in fact initially you may feel even more uncomfortable because you are more aware of how upset or scared you feel. Some may respond to this process by feeling calmer. If you feel more upset or about the same, continue to be with your feelings, let yourself breathe if you can, and remember this will help you to feel better about sex.

It is important that you and your partner accept how you feel and approach your feelings with tenderness and love. Awareness, acceptance,and compassion are probably the most important things you can do for yourself and/or your partner.

Are There Any Connections to the Past?

You may want to ask yourself:

* Have you felt this way before? * Do you feel this way in other situations?

See if you can remember the first time you felt this way and whether there might be a connection. Does it make sense to you why this was triggered at this time? If not, try to remember the next time you felt this way and whether you can make a connection to your present feelings. Strong emotional reactions are usually connected to past experiences that have not been fully resolved.

You may have been sexually assaulted and coped by numbing out. Or you may have been raised in a chaotic household and feel a strong need to be in control. Directing your attention to what originally brought on these feelings or reactions, and finding ways to work through those issues can help a lot.

How is Your Relationship?

If you are withdrawing from sex, how are you feeling about your relationship?

* Are there areas in your relationship, apart from sex, that need to change? * Are you spending too much time together, which can dampen passion? * Are you not spending enough time together, which can lessen your intimacy? * Are you carrying around "baggage" from a previous relationship, which may be blocking your ability to relate intimately with your partner? * Are your childhood experiences coming between you?

You may want to ask yourself what happens when you withdraw from your partner. Does it reduce some anxiety or fear, or get you some much needed space. Maybe there is another way that you could accomplish the same thing. When you are aware of what is going on, you can let your partner know how you feel, and ask her/him for what you need.

What You Can Do: Slowing Down

If you are going numb or shutting down, there are a number of strategies you can try. One strategy is to approach sex at a slower pace, spending more time at sexual activities in which you don't numb out. Maintain a lot of contact with your lover by talking to each other and keeping eye contact. The idea is to stay present and in your body, and to stop when you begin to numb out.

Asking For What You Need

You may need a stronger or softer touch, or to be in a certain position. Stop whenever you need to, and talk about how you are feeling. You might want to hold each other for awhile, then begin again unless you don't want to. Only you can know how you are feeling and whether you want to continue or not, your partner can only guess. It is far better for you if you take charge of your own needs and that your partner respects that. At times, it may feel frustrating, for both of you, so remember that by being patient and taking it slow, your sex life can improve.

Partners who view each others' difficulties with sex as something to work on together have the best results. In this situation a partner will ask how the other is feeling, what is wanted, and whether they need to stop. This sends a clear message that you care and that it is okay to stop at any time.

Talking About Sex

Talking about sex, both inside and outside the bedroom, is important in any relationship. If you're shy about saying what you like while you're making love, tell your sweetie at another time. Have fun, it doesn't need to be serious. You may feel more comfortable sharing sexual fantasies because it is less direct. Do what works for you, but find a way to communicate your likes and dislikes with sex.

Starting and Stopping Sex

For the person who feels uncomfortable on the receiving end of sexual pleasure, try starting with just a little and stop. Talk about it, if that feels okay. Then try a little more, remembering to breathe. Take a break again. Keep trying this, receiving a little each time and then maybe increasing the amount of time each time. By going slowly, stopping and starting again, you can increase your comfort level with the focus on you. Both of you need to be patient because this can feel frustrating too but it is well worth it in the long run. You may find you even enjoy it.

Letting Go

To have an orgasm, we need to be able to ride the waves of arousal and let go--not always such an easy thing to do. If you find this difficult, begin outside the context of sex by thinking or talking about the following questions:

* What does letting go mean to you? * What would happen if you were to let go? * How do you feel about letting go? * Do you know what those reactions, associations, and feelings are connected to? * Are there other ways of your life in which you find it hard to let go? * Do you like to be in control? * Is there anything you are afraid will happen if you are not in control?

You might want to begin by finding opportunities to let go, to be in less control outside of sex. How do you feel about that? Start small. Find little ways you can be in less control throughout your day. See if you can relax more, take it easy. Remember this can help improve your sex life so let that motivate you.

During sex notice your reactions. If you start to tense up or pull back, stop right there. Notice that for a moment, breathe, and if you want continue. Trying to push on while you tense up will not work, backing off will. You'll immediately relax some. Remember, you are tensing up for a reason, honour that and let your partner know you need to stop. Obviously it is crucial that your partner handles this sensitively and respectfully.

Additionally, you may need to let your partner know how to pleasure you just the way you like it. Give yourself permission to do that.

And most importantly, no one has an orgasm by trying to have one. Let go of that goal, and focus on the pleasurable feelings in your body. Some women need to hear gentle loving words or be held when they approach orgasm because for them it brings up all sorts of safety issues. Others like to hear something more raunchy.

Summing Up

Experiencing sexual pleasure involves being present; staying with your feelings, your breath and other body sensations; expressing yourself (talking, making sounds, moving your body); and letting go. Finding ways to feel more comfortable doing these things, in and outside the bedroom, will help your sex life. Try not to worry if you don't notice any difference right away, be patient with yourself and your partner--your sex life can and will improve.

About the Author

Kali Munro, M.Ed., is a Toronto psychotherapist with twenty years experience. She also has an online practice. She has published many self-help articles about relationships, sexual abuse, lesbian and gay issues, body image, and other personal growth issues. Her website has lots of free articles, self-quizzes, self-help tips, inspirational quotes and poetry, and free e-books and e-newsletters. Check out her website at www.KaliMunro.com

Sexual Intimacy is an experience that blows us all away at first. As a relationship proceeds however, the passionate fire tends to fade and burn out. If you learn to adapt to the new stages in your relationships, you can keep your passion fire burning and experience a sexual greatness you never thought you could accomplish!

The reason sex becomes less mysterious is because it eventually enters a new stage of comfort and familiarity. You and your partner have been together for a certain amount of time and have had the opportunity to explore each other’s bodies over and over again. Not only that, but the two of you continue to follow the same sexual routines, because you already know what certain things satisfies the two of you and therefore you feel safe and fear from trying anything new.

Do not, nevertheless, let new stages scare or have you give up on having a hot and passionate sex life with your lover. In fact, finding that comfort and familiarity in your relationship will help open the doors to new discoveries and experiences. Entering the comfort and familiar stage is wonderful for the reason that it makes you feel. . .well. . comfortable! You have been with your partner long enough to feel safe and comfortable, which means your relationship is open enough to explore new areas and try new things, using the things you already know about each other’s sexuality and desires. Using familiarity to your relationship’s advantage will only bring you new and exciting results.

If you feel like trying something new or wish to explore new areas in the bedroom, you can either talk to your partner about it or take a chance and just try it the next time you are intimate! Talking about sex with your partner does mean that there is trouble in paradise. Many couples fear that if they bring up the sex, it will send out the message that their partner is not good enough and will therefore upset their lover and start a fight. Just be honest about it, combining it with good timing and the right choice of words, of course. Simply tell him or her that you feel close to them and wish to take your intimacy to the next level of new discoveries and even more closeness.

Together, you and your partner can come up with new ideas and suggestions of how you can turn the bedroom into a new destination, taking you to mysterious and sexy places. If you are thinking about throwing in some new ideas without discussing it with your partner the next time you perform sexual activity, it would be advisable to look over your ideas first. If your new ideas seem too unfamiliar and out of character of your usual routine, then perhaps it would be best to talk to you lover about it first. You do not want to scare or shock your partner with something so unexpected and unknown. It could be something they do not believe belongs in sexual activity, or simply makes them too uncomfortable.

Re-Discovering each other is another terrific way to heat things up again. The two of you have seen each other’s bodies so many times; that you probably stopped observing it altogether and just went straight for the deed and mission to orgasm. It is important to remember that sex in humans has everything to do with feeding the minds fantasy. Sex is a very visual activity; so take the time to re-discover your partner’s body, every curve and area that puts together the creature you desire so much. Oh yes, and take your time! Over time in a relationship, people tend to rush and hurry more during sex as if it is a chore. Making love is supposed to be a fun and patient experience. So take the time to observe your lover’s body, kissing every area patiently, expressing the fantasy your mind has for your partner, making it come true.

Paying attention plays a big part in sexual greatness as well. If you are taking it slowly as you should, you will able to notice the expressions your partner is making, which can be a big turn on for you and boost your sexual confidence, motivating you to go on and try new and more things to keep things running smoothly and hot. Keep in mind that you should pay attention to yourself as well. If you wish for an area to be pursued, feel free to request it from your partner. After all, your partner will do his or her best, but is not a mind reader1

Showing your appreciation and care for each other will leave things healthy in the bedroom, making you both look forward to the next time, with the wish to discover each other all over again. Do not just get up and go about your day after you are done. Take the time to let your partner know how wonderful the experience was and how great it made you feel, as well as asking how they feel about it too. Talking about it will bring the two of you closer together, which will result in the both of you craving more and more intimacy.

In order to do all of this though, you must make the time! Too many people claim that they wish to improve their sexual life, but just do not have the time. If heating things back up in your sex life is truly important to you and your partner, then you both will have to make the time to dedicate to your sexual needs and desires. Set up a time when you can talk about it and patiently have a love making session. As time goes by and you get used to your new sexual lifestyle, you will be able to be spontaneous as well. Spontaneity is just as important because it makes things more exciting and comes in handy when you are having the busiest of schedules!

When you and your lover work as a team and put in the efforts needed and wanted to your sexual relationship, you will be able to re-explore all the things you love about each other, as well as finding out things you never knew could make the two of you so wild. Just keep an open mind, be honest about how you are feeling and make the time to approach the bedroom with care, patience and willingness. In time, you will, as a couple, find your secret to making your sex life last in the hottest and sexiest way you could only dream about before.

Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions.

Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions.

21st century media debates on feminist issues are currently concentrating on denouncing so-called ‘have-it-all’ women. Having reaped the rewards of their mothers’ campaigns in the sexual revolution of the 60’s, it seems that women are now being trounced and divided into one of two categories: the good mother/non-careerist or the bad mother/high-flyer. It’s no small matter that women are still being judged on their reproductive capabilities and how well it fits into the pro-social model of nurturer. But, while few women would deny the stress that ‘having it all’ can bring, they also acknowledge the inequality of labour division within and outside of the home that is the root of such stress. The fundamental right to equal opportunities remains regardless and is a battle still being fought.  

So what of female sexuality in our mothers’ daughter’s generation? It’s old news that the contraceptive pill allowed women unprecedented sexual freedom. But, as with the workplace/homelife polemic, women have been denigrated and castigated over the choices they make under the banner of sexual liberation, if those choices haven’t sat neatly within the traditional view of female sexuality. “Nice women don’t” might be a cliché but its implicit negative judgement is still active in the world nonetheless.  

However, despite this, some women are choosing to assert their sexuality in traditionally male arena’s, challenging 20th century feminist arguments that women are simply being exploited if they work in the sex industry, for example.  

So what of this new post-feminist stance that the sex industry can provide the opportunity for women to assert sexual power and control? Instead of victim-hood and exploitation, many are arguing that it is a reclamation of the feminine, a ground-breaking triumph against the stigma attached to female sexuality in the male dominated sphere. Whether you agree or not that a lap-dancer is the one with the power, or believe that porn for women is not simply white-washing the bigger issue, one thing is for sure, women are shaking off the shame attached to female sexuality.  

One area where this is evident, perhaps more so than any other, is the internet. It would be fair to acknowledge that the proliferation of porn on the worldwide web caters in the main to men, and the long-running discussions on whether it is exploitative are absolutely valid. But, it would be absurd to believe that the female of the species only harbours a desire for procreational, matrimonial, mission-position sex; with increasing openness to a once-secret underworld of sexual desire, women are asserting their sexual needs and getting them satisfied online.  

Able to enjoy explicit material if they choose, women are also opting to step outside of voyeuristic surfing and get active: there are growing numbers of online dating sites that cater specifically to the ‘adult’ market. As the booming business of online dating flourishes, pockets of niche sites are appearing that aid the acceptance of a new sexual culture for women. The usual etiquette of dating is set aside with a liberating honesty of what women might be seeking. If you want to explore your desire to dominate, you can. If you want to meet someone who loves your super-size body, there are dedicated sites. In fact, whatever the preference or particular sexual practice, both men and women are openly advertising to meet like-minded individuals without any stigma attached. 

Take the fetish scene for example. Women are meeting partners through specialist sites such as http://www.fetish-mate.com and forming friendships with other women in the fetish scene to the extent that lunches are organised under a ‘vanilla’ dress-code; everyday wear in everyday places.  

No-one is saying that the sexual revolution has stopped revolving. There remains a need to debate and challenge issues that adversely affect women, as evidenced by the current media attention on women who work and have families. Some might even say that the old cause of feminism has gone astray. But, in this post-feminist world, women are without doubt asserting their sexuality in unprecedented ways, coming out of the closet and unashamedly doing it for themselves.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Claire Gaskin is a social researcher who previously worked in the counselling field and now runs a dating website for people interested in the fetish scene. Website address: http://www.fetish-mate.com

Email address: claire.gaskin@fetish-mate.com

There was a time when finding a date, partner, lover or playmate online was frowned upon. It was for people who couldn’t get a date any other way!

Oh how things have changed…not only can you sign up to a site listing thousands of singles who match your height, size, location and taste in food…now you can choose your sex partners too. 

Finding people on the net can be an isolating/sole activity but, once you've taken that deep breath and shrugged off the stigma attached to female sexual freedom, life can get very interesting! 

Take the fetish scene; it's out there, sites for introduction or information, clubs for fun, support or full on parties, yearly events and awards, shops for all those outfits and toys to assist in your wildest fantasies. Whether you’re into sexy undies, the power of domination or having your feet licked...it's yours for the taking.

It's time to turn your man over and tell him how u like it...or come out to the world and grab the girl with the dog collar and lead her straight to your bedroom, love nest or dungeon! 

So, where do you start what’s the ethics, is it safe, what’s the terminology? 

Start at the beginning. 

What are you looking for?

Be clear in your own head what you want, don’t go at someone else’s pace, set your own and only go as far and as fast as you want to. 

Once you’ve found a site that interests you take advantage of the free trial offers. Use this time to send as many mails to other members as you can, the more you mail out the more will come back. Chat with lots of people not just the one person. And remember it’s cool for women to make the first contact too! 

Fill out your personal details. This is your opportunity to sell yourself. Tell people who you are, what you like, what you’re looking for. If it’s your first time or if you’re new to the scene just say so. The members are into an alternative lifestyle; they’re not an alien life form. And above all, be honest! 

Put a picture on your profile. Make sure it’s of you and only you! Not your favourite pet or you and your ex! And make sure it’s an up to date one…nothing worse than when you get to meet someone and they look about 10 years older than the picture you’ve been dreaming over! 

Don’t feel obliged to answer every contact. Just because it’s a site about sex doesn’t mean anyone can say anything to you and you have to accept it. No matter what type of site or relationship the overriding word is ‘consensual’. If you’re not interested then don’t reply. You wouldn’t accept a drink, dance or advance from just anyone in a club and the same applies to introduction sites.  

If there’s something on a persons profile that you don’t understand take a deep breath and ask then or look in the sites glossary. Or if you’re just too shy for that do a search on the Internet! 

Use the safety of the site to get to know the people you come in contact with before meeting them in person. If you do agree to meet in person meet in a public place and drive yourself.

Is it a scam I hear you ask? No, there are thousands of people out there looking to make new friends, find romance, find a sex partner that match their hopes, dreams and fantasies and it costs less per month than one night out on the town. And lets be honest, how often will you come across people from around the world that you can talk openly to from the moment you meet them about your inner most fantasies?

Do remember though that online dating is a tool to help with what you are looking for but without your input it would be like sitting in the toilets at a party! 

It doesn’t matter what your age, size, hair colour or interests are. There are sites on the Internet to meet your need and budget. Whether it’s music, fetish, sport, health or religion, there’s a site for you. So what are you waiting for, get on there and have some fun.

Helen Smithwww.fetish-mate.com

Copyright © 2005 Helen Smith. This article is provided courtesy of www.fetish-mate.com This article may be freely published on any website, as long as the links are live, and this notice is left intact.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Helen Smith is webmaster to two sites, www.fetish-mate.com and www.music-mate.com

About the Author: Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/cmd.php?ad=139627

Awaken Your Sexual Spirit

What is the connection between sex and spirituality? Everything!

Humans are in fact sexual beings and sex represents our deepest underlying self, emotions, feelings and inner child. Experts explain that during the sexual act, people reveal the most about themselves because it is at this moment that they are the most vulnerable. If you keep your guard up and have sex simply for pleasure, the flow of the kundalini (the spiritual evolutionary force of the body) is blocked and you might miss the most important purpose of this act: becoming one again with another but also with God.

Sex can be a truly profound experience that transcends the Ego and the physical body and opens your consciousness to a new realm -- the cycle of death and rebirth. Our sexual energy is incredibly powerful and by channeling it consciously and with intensity, you can reach the heights of pure bliss.

Do you want to banish sexual boredom and reconnect with your loved one? Or perhaps you simply want to spice up your relationship? It's easy to incorporate simple, innovative and amazingly effective "tools" to rejuvenate your sexuality. Understanding techniques such as Tantra, Kama Sutra and aromatherapy rituals are just the beginning. Today I offer an aromatic ritual that will reconnect you with your sexual and spiritual self, the first step toward enhancing passion, romance and even lust!

This ritual is an excerpt from our new email class "Aromas & Rituals to Awaken Your Sexual Spirit." You can sign up for this special class today by visiting http://www.aromalchemy.com/education/classes/sexualspirit.html.

~Discover Your Sexual Spirit!~

```````````````` Anoint & Breathe ```````````````` Apply the aromatic blend below on the corresponding chakras: the first located at the sacrum and hips; the second located below the navel. Pour a few drops into the palms of your hands and breathe it deeply several times. Sit in a comfortable position. Lift the shoulders up and back, expanding the chest area up, open and forward.

Now with your chin and head level, close your mouth and begin to take long, deep breaths through your nose. As you continue deeply inhaling and exhaling, become aware of your abdomen area, as you exhale gently and firmly squeeze or push the navel back toward your spine.

Then as you inhale, release the backward push from the navel and allow the abdominal muscles to relax forward so that area now fills with air as you continue inhaling. Continue in this way for 1 to 3 minutes.

```````````````` Surrender & Feel ```````````````` Stop now and remain silent. Surrender yourself to this moment. What do you see? What do you feel? Journal this experience since it will help to discover your true spirit within, accept it, welcome it and live accordingly with its needs and wants without guilt or frustration.

```````````````` The Aromas ```````````````` Prepare the following blend by first pouring the essential oils into a 10-ml bottle and adding organic vegetable oil to fill:

· 6 drops Jasmine otto · 4 drops Rose otto · 6 drops Sandalwood · 4 drops Frankincense

Anoint your third eye, solar plexus, abdomen and heart chakras. This blend will gently open you to the kundalini energy.

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In Good Health, Francoise Rapp www.AromAlchemy.com

(c) Francoise Rapp, 2002. Internationally renowned aromatherapist and alchemist, Francoise Rapp, shares her expertise in using essential oils to heal and revitalize body and mind at http://www.aromalchemy.com. Highlights include aromatherapy classes, pure & organic essential oils, recipes and aromatic treatments for health and wellness, and a free weekly newsletter. Discover the power of aromatherapy today at http://www.aromalchemy.com!

Internationally renowned aromatherapist and alchemist Françoise Rapp shares her expertise each week in her free ezine, the Arom'Alchemy Newsletter. To subscribe, visit www.aromalchemy.com/education.

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A look at some natural aphrodisiacs.

There are many well-known ways to boost a sagging libido, from oysters to zinc to Viagra. But what about some holistic alternatives?

First of all, with age our libidos go south -- estrogen, progesterone and especially testosterone in men and women," Cass said.

To combat a low sex drive, Cass first recommends eating right and getting enough fatty acids in your diet. "Fish oil particularly or flax oil because that's a precursor to the sex hormones."

There are a lot of herbs that actually enhance sexuality, Cass said. Here are a few:

Sex-Boosting Herbs Chrysanthemum Cistanches Cordyceps Epimedium (a mushroom) Jujube

You can get these herbs throught the shops on Everything Health and Beauty: http://www.everythinghealthandbeauty.9k.com

So is there any concern that you can take too much or that these herbs can have side effects?

"It's always good to talk to your doctor when you're on medication and taking an herb," Cass said.

Some herbs, Cass noted, actually act on the hormones themselves while others work on the circulatory system. The good news is that instead of side-effects, some of the herbs have side-benefits.

"A lot of these actually lower your blood pressure," she said. "So if you tend to have hypertension this will actually bring your blood pressure down in a much more natural way."

As for fragrance and aromatherapies, each individual has his or her own individual chemistry and things that they will prefer. But the following standards, Cass said, traditionally affect the emotional system, going "right into our emotional body and into our sensuality...and turn us on."

Stimulating Scents Ylang-Ylang Rose Patchouli Sandalwood Jasmine Vanilla Musk Cinnamon Coriander

As far as food goes, chocolate, particularly for women, is a sensuality enhancer, Cass said. Dark chocolate is probably better because you get more of the actual chocolate and less of the sugar, fat and other things.

Berries, bananas, peaches and other fruits are more about how you eat them rather then their composition, she said.

"Think of feeding each other berries, feeding each other a ripe peach or apricot," she said. "There's something very sensual about that. It's part of the foreplay."

About The Author

Richard Moore is the Founder an President of Everything Health and Beauty! For Men and Women

Everything Health and Beauty for Men and Women was established to provide information, tips and reviews relevant to all things pertaining to Health, Beauty, Fitness And Wellness. We are quickly growing and becoming one of the most popular internet health, beauty, fitness and wellness resource sites available. We give you new and innovative, up to date real and honest information. http://www.everythinghealthandbeauty.9k.com

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About the Author

The author is a breastfeeding mother with a website 007 Breasts athttp://www.007b.com/ discussing how media and society have influenced us to see female breasts as taboos and sexual objects and how this relates to breastfeeding. Other topics are why women fail to breastfeed, wonders of breastmilk and breastfeeding, bras and breast health, breastfeeding pictures, normal breasts gallery, topfreedom.

I'm a candle addict and must've burned thousands of the things in my time. I've bought them, made them and even ruined them by displaying them in the wrong places.

Candlelight can dramatically change the mood of a room and although very trendy now, candles are, apart from primitive fires, the oldest mean of supplying light. References to candles can be found that date back as far as 3000 bc in Greece and Egypt although the oldest fragment of actual candle to have been found is considerably more modern as it's no more than about 2000 years old. It was found in Avignon, France.

Imagine yourself in medieval times when wax candles were used to light the great castles, halls, monasteries and churches of the time. Candles of the time certainly were as attractive as those we have today and aromatherapeutic qualities were non-existent. Even the candles of the rich were by no means attractive but the majority of people, being paupers, couldn't afford proper candles so they'd make their own by dipping rushes in leftover kitchen fat. Just the thought of what that must've smelt like is enough to make my stomach churn.

Things improved during the sixteenth century, especially for the poorest people who could now afford a pound of dark yellow tallow (animal fat) candles. The quality of light varied considerably, as tallow candles gave off a very dull light compared to wax. The very best candles were made of spermaceti, a wax derived from oil found in the head cavities of sperm whales. Spermaceti candles burned with such a bright light that the flame was used as a standard for light measurement but only the very wealthy could afford such a luxury. Obviously, these are no longer available.

Candle making machines were eventually invented during the nineteenth century. It was around the same time that a French chemist discovered that tallow was a composition of two fatty acids, stearic acid and oleic acid, combined with glycerine. By removing the glycerine, he invented stearine candles. These were harder than tallow and burned much longer and brighter. Eventually, paraffin wax, which is extracted from crude oil, was discovered and widely used as it equalled both beeswax and spermaceti for brightness and hardness but was much cheaper. Paraffin wax is still used today.

DISPLAY TIPS

- First of all, NEVER display candles where they're exposed to sunlight or spotlights. They'll fade and if left too long, will eventually bend. Trust me, floppy candles don't look good.

- If you want your table to look elegant, long tapered candles are the best choice. For anything informal, pillar candles are ideal.

- Place some stones (glass or natural) or shells in the bottom of a clear, wide bowl of water and light some floating candles. Sprinkling some petals on the water adds to the appeal. If you have pets, remember to remove the water before leaving the bowl unattended as drinking water with wax in it can give them an upset tummy and the petals of some plants are lethal when ingested.

- Personally, I think candles always look better grouped together. Arranged at different heights, they make more impact as 'ornaments' and give off more light. I one had 5 or 6 standing on a brass tray that'd been stuck down by dripping wax on to the tray in large blobs and pressing each candle into the warm wax. The extra stability made them safer to use and liking to keep things as leisurely as possible, the tray made it easy to move them from room to room.

- When positioning a candle between two people, the flame should always burn at least two inches below eye level. Why? You want eye contact don't you? There's nothing romantic about a flickering flame stopping you from gazing into each other's eyes and even if you're not into intimate meeting of the eye, it's still very annoying!

- If you want your candles to look shiny and clean when you light them, try rubbing them with a pair of old tights to remove dust and fingerprints. This'll bring back the sheen that's usually lost when the candle gets warm. Good job they're handy for something, eh?

BURNING TIPS

- Cold candles burn slower so pop them into the fridge for an hour or so before lighting them. Wrap them in foil or cling film first otherwise the wick will become damp and difficult to light. You wouldn't want a damp wick, would you?

- Never stand a lit candle in a draught. Draughts create a larger flame and uneven burning; not to mention how easily they can catch fabrics alight.

- If your candle is too slim for the holder, wrap some aluminium foil around the bottom to make a tighter fit.

- Do your pillar candles end up with high sides and a hole down the middle? To avoid this, always burn the candle for one hour per inch in diameter. That's the approximate time it takes for the wax to melt across the entire surface. In other words, unless you know you'll be burning your candle for at least 4 hours, don't light thick ones.

- If you've let a candle burn right down and the wax is stuck in the holder, put the holder into the freezer for a couple of hours and the wax should be easier to dig out.

- If you like tea lights, try to buy the kind that have metal cases as these are easy to remove from holders after use. If you only have the uncovered type, pour some water into the holder before lighting the candle. When it's extinguished and the wax has hardened, it should be easier to pop it out of the container. You do have to remove it as soon as it's hardened though otherwise you'll end up digging at it with a blunt knife or similar.

- Spilled wax should be allowed to solidify. Once it's hardened, cover the area with brown paper and gently press with a warm iron. The wax should be absorbed into the paper. It's always a good idea to stand your candle on or in something non-flammable though as the dye from coloured wax can be impossible to remove.

- Extinguish candles by pushing the wick into the liquid wax. Spent match sticks are good to use for this but whatever you choose to use, don't let it be your fingers. Molten wax is hot. Leave for about a minute, then re-centre the wick. Using this technique eliminates smoking from the extinguished wick and covers the wick with a layer of wax making re-lighting easier. If you're in a hurry and need to blow the candle out, hold your finger in front of the flame. The air will flow around your finger and extinguish it from both sides, preventing splattering.

- Never pour melted wax down the sink or toilet. Pour it into an empty milk carton or something similar and pop it in the bin.

SAFETY TIPS

- NEVER EVER LEAVE A BURNING CANDLE UNATTENDED. DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT! NEVER EVER!!!

- Keep burning candles away from flammable materials. Curtains, furniture, bedding, books and your own clothes are all potential hazards. Remember that drafts can easily blow lightweight curtains into the flame. I've never had any major problems with candles, but one did set fire to a paper napkin once.

- Never use a candle as a light source when you're looking for something in a storage cupboard. That's what torches are for.

- Always place candles on heat resistant surfaces. A friend of mine had one catch fire to the tablecloth. She managed to extinguish it before any major damage was done, but the table was ruined.

- Candles in glass containers are popular now. They're ever so pretty, with all sorts of bits and bobs embedded in the wax or gel, but if you use them, never let them burn down to more than half inch from the bottom of the container. If they melt completely, the heat could cause the container to crack.

Candles come in all shapes and sizes and you'll always find some that'll match your décor. They can usually be picked up cheap in pound shops and the likes, but I've found the best bargain candles are those from IKEA. They sell a bundle of about a dozen white candles for a couple of pounds and usually have a few different colours available, depending on what's fashionable at the time. Unlike some cheap candles, Ikea candles burn well, too. I use tea lights on the coffee table because they're unobtrusive and cheap. Cheap's good because it means I can burn candles as often as I like without having to stretch my budget too much.

It's nice to splash out now and then though, and hand made candles are one of the luxuries I like to have on special occasions and they make lovely gifts too. They're often found in little backstreet shops selling quirky interior design pieces but the net's also a huge source so it's worth having a surf around to see what you can turn up.

So now that you know what you need to know about candles, why don't you plan a nice meal (or call for a take-away if you're hopeless in the kitchen), turn down the lights and share a bottle of wine with the person you'd most like to snuggle up to in this world (no, not you're mum!).

Have fun.

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Having moved 20 times in her life, Sharon was in a position to understand the difficulties experienced by mature women wishing to develop new friendships. Understanding the problems fed Sharon's desire to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem and FriendsYourWay UK (www.friendsyourway.co.uk), a website dedicated to helping women in the UK find new, platonic friends in their own local areas, was developed.

Originally from East London, Sharon now lives in Cheshire with her partner Richard and two of her three children. She's been writing in one form or another all of her life and also enjoys reading, web design, knitting/crochet, pottering in her garden and long discussions about life that go on into the small hours, often accompanied by a bottle of rose wine.

Sharon can be contacted on sharon@friendsyourway.co.uk

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Differing Sexual Needs

Robert Elias Najemy

Life Situations and Lessons Series

Fanny lost her desire for sexual contact early in her marriage.

This has become a serious problem for her husband Dennis. Although he tries not to take it personally, he cannot help feeling rejected and demeaned as a man. Also, his biological needs cause him to suffer, especially at night.

Fanny loves Dennis and feels badly about her inability to make love to him. She is blocked by a subconscious aversion toward the male reproductive organ and the sexual act itself. Although she is not aware of the reason, both the male organ and the act of sex seem dirty to her. Her search into why she feels this way has been fruitless until now.

Dennis also loves Fanny very much. This problem, however, causes him to feel great injustice. He needs this contact physically and emotionally. Fanny understands and respects his need, but feels very much pressured by him and also suffers from an unconquerable aversion when he approaches her sexually.

This fear of his approaching her causes her to avoid all contact, even simple affection, so he will not be aroused and the energy between them will not become sexual. She has begun occupying herself with a many activities outside the home, using up large quantities of energy and avoiding Dennis. She also leaves on the weekends for seminars or retreats. She has found some meaning, but also perhaps some escape.

This adds to Dennis?s feelings of injustice and hurt. He seldom sees her at home and would like to spend some quality time with his wife.

What could each of them have to learn?

Fanny:

1. Does she need to work more deeply on discovering the cause of her fear and repulsion toward the male organ and sexual union? 2. Does she need to force herself to accept her husband sexually even though she does not feel it? 3. Or is her lesson to accept this problem and let her husband work it out from his end? 4. Should she be staying home more with her family even if this does not fulfill her as much as her other activities and even if their material needs are cared for? 5. Should she be there at home creating with her presence a sense of family? 6. Should she feel responsible for Dennis?s unhappiness or not? 7. What does she need in order to find a balance? 8. Does she need to free herself from the belief that sex is dirty or evil? 9. Should she give him more affection and loving affirmation so he can feel her love? 10. Must she distinguish between affection, hugging and caressing and sex? 11. Does she need to express her needs and beliefs to him more clearly, lovingly and assertively without feeling responsible for his reality? 12. Does she need to overcome any negativity she is feeling toward him?

Dennis:

1. Should he pressure his wife to accept physical contact with him? 2. Should he insist that she stay at home more? 3. Is his lesson to accept this absence of sexual contact? 4. Is he in any way doing something that repulses his wife? 5. Does he need to understand her problem and not take this situation personally? 6. How can he find his happiness without doing injustice to his wife? 7. Should he become less focused on the sexual level for pleasure, relaxation or affirmation of himself as a man? 8. Can he feel her love and caring for him without its verification through the sexual act? 9. Does he need to discover if she may not be having some negative feelings toward him because of something he has or has not done? 10. Can he love and feel close to her even if she cannot give him what he needs? 11. Should he express his needs with an I- message, helping her to understand how he feels? 12. Perhaps he should let her overcome this in her own way and timing? 13. Has the time come to become more spiritually oriented and direct his energies in other directions? 14. Or to love and accept himself more and realize that his self-worth is not dependent upon whether she wants him sexually or not?

If you are in a position similar to Fanny or Dennis, look through these lists of possible lessons and observe which seem to ring a bell in your inner self. Also be aware that you may have a number of the above-listed lessons as well as others which are not listed.

Within you know your lessons. If you need help, visit http://www.HolisitcHarmony.com for greater clarity.

(Adapted from the forthcoming "Relationships of Conscious Love" by Robert Elias Najemy. His book "The Psychology of Happiness" (ISBN 0-9710116-0-5) is available at http://www.amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. His writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.

Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 600 articles, 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony and 20 books, which have sold over 100,000 copies. He is the Founder and director of the Center for Harmonious Living in Greece with 3700 members. His book The Psychology of Happiness; ISBN 0-9710116-0-5 is available at www.amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. where you can view and download FREE articles and e-books.

Eliminating Female Sexual Health Problems By Dana Huston Copyright © womens-health-fitness.com

To start with you must ensure that you are making the effort to improve your general health, which in turn will eliminate any female sexual health problems & help your overall sex life.

But there are protocols and natural substances that can now be used to greatly assist in improving the quality of a woman's sex life and eliminate any troubling female sexual health problems.

To restore sexual vitality naturally and do away with female sexual health problems it's necessary to specifically address a multitude of physiological influences on libido, including energy level, hormonal balance, blood flow, and vascular and nervous system functions.

If these issues aren't dealt with, both physiological and psychological impairments that interfere with the normal female sexual response, can lead to concerns such as diminishment of libido (sex drive) and of sexual arousal, a decrease in genital sensation and vaginal lubrication, and inability to achieve orgasm.

Research has established that there are a number of standardized herbal extracts, amino acids, vitamins and other substances that can contribute in different ways in helping women regain their sexual vitality & remove any female sexual health problems.

Some of these substances can be applied topically to stimulate blood flow to the clitoris whereas other female sexual health ingredients are taken orally as dietary supplements to help strengthen the sexual organs and the appropriate metabolic pathways.

Some substances can be taken individually but they are usually combined for greater efficacy.

However it is important to understand that in order to get rid of any female sexual health problems, it's not simply a matter of taking a handful of these ingredients and ingesting or applying them.

Not only would this not work but it could be dangerous.

You need to understand that just because an ingredient is natural the same cautions apply to them as all other substances and that is what is safe and effective at the correct dose can be toxic at higher doses.

It took a team of research scientists three years to determine the correct proportions of the substances to combine to maximize efficacy for superior female sexual health.

But an even bigger problem to overcome was an effective delivery system. In other words getting the active ingredients to the organs and cells where they are needed.

Those ingredients that are considered useful for addressing female sexual health concerns are as follows:

Herbs (In standardized extract form)

- Damiana leaf - Muira puama - Black cohosh root - Ginger root - Rhodiola crenulata - Agnus castus - Passion flower - Zizyphi fructus - Ginkgo biloba - Guarana - Maca - Coleus forskohli - Licorice - Aloe vera - Chamomile - Black walnut

Amino Acids - L-Arginine - L-Histidine - L-Tyrosine

Vitamins Vitamin B3 - Vitamin B5 - Vitamin B12 - Folic Acid - Vitamin E

Other - Isoflavones - Mentha Piperita

For any woman the importance of a regular healthy and fulfilling sex life cannot be overstated.

This is an important natural function of life which helps prevent the degeneration of your body. It does this in multiple ways…both physically and mentally.

The mental component has a greater impact on the physical body than you can imagine.

A woman who is sexually fulfilled is far less likely to suffer from depression and as such has a better chance of avoiding antidepressant drugs which is often the start of a cascade of other mental and physical problems brought about through the many side effects of these drugs.

A woman who has superior female sexual health is less likely to have marital problems if she enjoys a good sense of well being which a satisfying sex life can certainly contribute to. These benefits flow onto the rest of the family.

On the physical side as alluded to earlier 'if you don't use it you lose it'. This equally applies to women as it does to men. The female body is designed to have regular sexual intercourse or if lacking a partner, manual stimulation.

If sexual activity is very rare the vaginal wall will begin to atrophy which will result in symptoms which include itching, irritation, burning or pain that may be constant.

These symptoms usually end in women seeking medical assistance which more often than not results in prescription medication or worse surgery.

So, ladies do what you need to do for superior female sexual health & keep an active sex life for your health's sake.

For more information on this subject please visit: http://www.womens-health-fitness.com/female-sexual-health.htm

Sex is a physical activity so naturally getting and keeping fit will greatly improve your love-making skills. Here are some exercises for better sex.

The pubococcygeal (PC) muscles

The muscles you use to stop urinating midstream are called the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. If you're male they’re also the muscles that contract when you ejaculate. You can learn to build control over them and prolong ejaculation by doing an exercise called a Kegel. Start by doing a short clench of your PC muscles, relax, and then try to do a longer clench for about 10 to 15 seconds. Repeat ten times, at least three times a day. The more you do the better control you will have.

Kegel exercises are good for women to do as well. By practicing them you will have more control over your vaginal muscles. You'll get more sexual satisfaction and a reduced chance of vaginal infections.

Pelvic lifts

Lie down on your back with your knees bent and your hands by your side. Lift your pelvis up and down as if you were having sexual intercourse. This is a great exercise for the doggy-style position. It's also my favorite exercise for better sex.

Push-ups

Lie down on your stomach with your hands parallel to your shoulders. Push up with your hands until your arms are straight and your chest and knees are off the ground. Then lower your body so it almost touches the ground. Repeat ten to twenty times.

Crunches

Lie down on your back with your knees bent. Cross your feet together and lift them off the ground so that they are parallel to the floor. With your hands on the back of your head or crossed against your chest lift your chest off the ground using your stomach. Be sure to focus on a spot on the ceiling to avoid straining your neck. Do three sets of twenty each.

Slides

Lie down on your back with your knees bent. Place your hands on the top of your thighs and slide them to the top of your knees, lifting your chest off the ground and using your stomach muscles. Slide your hands back down to your thighs. Do three sets of twenty each. Again, be sure to focus on a spot on the ceiling to avoid straining your neck

Prayers

Lie down on your back with your knees bent and legs apart. With your hands in a prayer position push them through your legs, lifting your chest off the ground and using your stomach muscles. Do three sets of twenty each.

Do push-ups and stomach exercises to strengthen your shoulder, back and abdominal muscles. You won’t tire as easy when you’re making love.

Kevin Davies is author of the "The Eros Hummingbird" eBook. In this eBook you'll learn essential information about the female G-spot and a new sexual technique that will give your lover the most intense orgasms she has ever had. To buy "The Eros Hummingbird" please visit http://www.eroshummingbird.com.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR Dana Huston is a woman's sexual health expert at Women's Health And Fitness. She is one of the top female sexual health experts. She's helped thousands of women over the past 10 years with their sexual health problems. Please visit http://www.womens-health-fitness.com to contact her.

About the Author

Jaime L. Mintun is the featured author of Couple-Me.com’s new article series that is helping Couple-Me.com’s members improve their online dating practices and make that special connection that lasts. Ms. Mintun can be reached at jlmntn@yahoo.com. Visit us at www.Couple-Me.com to fill out your free dating profile!

About the Author

ARTHUR ZULU is an editor, book reviewer, and the author of CHASING SHADOWS! and HOW TO WRITE A BEST-SELLER

Teens today are sent so many messages about sex. Just say No. Safe Sex. Abstinence. Keep your legs closed. Wait until you're married. Keep your pants up. Just do It. Many of you simply want an outlet for your youthful energy. The following list provides 25 activities a teenager or young adult can do as an alternative to engaging in sexual activity. Top 25 things Teens can do other than Sex 25. Visit the Library 24. Go see a funny movie 23. (: Send a card to a friend :) 22. Play Monopoly 21. Write a letter to a family member 20. DaNcE! 19. ~ Take a trip ~ 18. *Express Yourself in a Journal* 17. Read a book to a younger family member 16. : Go Bowling : 15. ^ Cook a gourmet meal ^ 14. *Drink some Water* 13. Fix something that's broken 12. }Help your parents with a chore{ 11. >Volunteer in your community< 10. ~ Go Swimming ~ 9. @ Bake a Cake @ 8. Sing your favorite song 7. ] Fix a creative sandwich [ 6. | Help a senior citizen with a task | 5. Watch a cartoon 4. ) Go Bicycling ( 3. # Make a Hot Fudge Sundae # 2. Take a walk in the park 1. / Have a loving conversation /

About the Author: Charlotte Williams, H.Ed. Ms. Williams is a health educator who has instructed youth for almost ten years. She offers seminars on abstinence, peer pressure, puberty and other teen health issues. To schedule Charlotte or if you have a teen health question email: health101@teacher.com. Article provided by: http://www.ahealthminute.com

The essential ingredients for a fulfilling sexual relationship are:

Mutual Intimacy Effective Sexual Stimulation and a Commitment to Sexual Growth and Development. In my opinion, Loving-angles can help couples to achieve all three.

Unlike other sex products Loving-angles has been created for couples to enjoy together. It’s not a gadget that you can use alone or on your partner. And unlike sex toys, it’s not something that once you’ve tried it, the novelty’s worn off. No, with Loving-angles, at last we have a product that will genuinely help couples to develop and maintain a mutually satisfying and fulfilling sex life.

Most people will tell you that sex is better when you can be open and uninhibited with your partner. Fear and humiliation are not aphrodisiacs (except for a very small percentage of the population!). Communication is the key to creating a trusting and intimate environment where lovers can feel free to be themselves.

Loving-angles helps to build intimate communication by providing a non-threatening and inspiring topic. Talking about and discovering new sexual positions allows couples to get to know themselves and their partners better. This mutual sharing and experimentation strengthens the sexual bond between them and leads to deeper emotional satisfaction.

Loving-angles also helps couples by providing a greater range of sexual positions where eye to eye contact can be maintained and skin contact is optimised.

How to improve sexual stimulation

There are probably 100’s of books on the market telling you how you can become a better lover. And nearly all of them will assume that you’re young, healthy and in your physical prime. Many of us find our sex lives are limited by our bodies’ physical capabilities. You may have an injury or perhaps you’re not as fit as you’d like to be because of a health condition or the natural ageing process. Either way, Loving-angles can help you and your partner to discover the sexual position that brings maximum physical pleasure without pain or discomfort. (Remember, if you’re unsure about the cause of any physical complaint, you should check with your GP before trying anything new)

Ultimately it is how your bodies fit together as lovers that can make the difference between orgasmic ecstasy and humdrum monotony. For most women, this means a position where the clitoris can be stimulated either by her partner’s pubic bone or finger. And for some, a position where the G-spot can also be caressed. Men can experience a range of exquisite sensations depending on the angle of penetration. By using Loving-angles, couples can develop their own unique positions that will ensure their caressing and thrusting is reaching all the right places.

How to encourage sexual growth

For many people, good sex is a matter of quality – not quantity. The external pressures of life leave may couples with little spare time, but Loving-angles can help to ensure that every sexual opportunity is both intimate and erotic.

Loving-angles provides couples with endless opportunities to experiment and enjoy a range of sexual positions – in and out of the bedroom. And it is this variety and novelty that adds the essential erotic spark that keeps sex exciting. When couples make a mutual commitment to develop and expand their sexual repertoire together, they need never fear sexual boredom.

If you’re currently experiencing sexual problems in your relationship, you might find it helpful to discuss things through with a professional sexual therapist. You can get help online at www.sextherapyonline.org.uk. Or you can get details of therapists within your area from the British Association of Sexual and Relationship Therapy at www.basrt.org.uk.

Paula is an experienced psychosexual therapist, couples counsellor, and youth counsellor. She works both for Relate and in private practice. She is the BBC’s expert on relationships and sexuality and is regularly asked to comment for the national press, television and radio and in womens’s magazines. She professionally endorses loving-angles and writes professional articles for www.loving-angles.com

Almost all women experience loss of sexual desire at some point in their lives. Some women believe that sexual desire is shameful or inappropriate to discuss openly. Women who've been unassertive about their sexuality in the past may prefer to sacrifice their sex lives rather than become assertive now about what's required to satisfy their sexual needs.

Denise seemed to have it all. A loving mother of two children and a partner in a law firm in Los Angeles, she had a very handsome and charming partner who was a successful entrepreneur. They jetted off for vacations to Italy and dined in the finest restaurants. But their relationship floundered in one intractable area. "After a while," Denise says, "I just stopped wanting to have sex. I go months without doing it."

It's a subject that's full of shame: low female sex drive. In a society saturated with sexual imagery, it seems strange that some people have no desire for sex. But it is a startlingly common problem. Millions of women suffer from a condition known as hypoactive sexual desire (HSD) or low sex drive.

Sexual Dysfunction?

One of the most predominant components of female sexual dysfunction is low libido. There is no generalized answer as to why someone is experiencing loss of sexual desire (low libido). Low libido can have a variety of causes, some psychological and others physical. If you have experienced loss of desire (low libido) for only a short time, it may just be a stage and could possibly take care of itself. Perhaps the leading cause of low libido is stress and fatigue. Most often, low libido in this circumstance is temporary and returns when the stressful period ends. Many times, when under extreme stress, low libido can be helped by getting the appropriate amount of rest. If the condition persists, the first line of defense may be making mental changes. Low libido can sometimes be helped by getting out of stressful or anxious situations. Changing certain aspects of your relationship may also alleviate the condition of low libido. Try to think about what the cause of low libido may be for you personally. It could be your partner, your environment, or a number of other factors. Stress compounds low libido and relationship issues as one partner is not able to devote an appropriate amount of energy to their partner.

Is Fematril The Next Female Viagra?

Recently several female sexual enhancers have come on the market to combat low female libido. The most promising of them all is Fematril. It is being called the "Female Viagra" because it has the ability to stimulate blood flow, circulation, and hormone activity. The end result is that women will experience a more enjoyable orgasm. Regular use can help women become more orgasmic. There are also now some female sexual enhancers that have been specifically designed to increase libido during the act itself. Many female sexual enhancers containing L-Arginine are getting very good responses in the market when used as a lubricant. L-Arginine is a non-essential amino acid which, through clinical testing, has been shown to increase libido and help in the area of female sexual dysfunction.

If you're frustrated about your lack of sexual appetite, try to go easy on yourself. Everyone's body is different. There is no "normal" level of sex drive. Your personal sense of normality is defined by how you feel about your sexuality and whether or not you're happy with how you are expressing it. If you're one of the lucky people who is perfectly comfortable with his or her sexuality, congratulate yourself. If you're like the millions of others who feels they could use a little boost, explore the remedies we've suggested.

About The Author

Sherri Solomon has just completed her new book titled "Why Should Guys Have All Of The Fun?" It will be released in June 2005. She is a devoted wife and mother of three children and lives in San Diego, California.

As I was working on my web site the other day, the news came on the TV with a report about online dating and casual sex.

The theory is that online dating is causing an increase in people engaging in casual sex - a so-called new sexual revolution.

Sure, some people are using the net to find partners for discreet affairs and intimate encounters. These same people could just be going out and picking someone up in a bar or a club. I think that they are being a little bit safer doing it on the net.

When they are browsing for their partner online, they have a chance to get to know a little bit about them. They are in the safety of their own home while they chat. Sure, someone could be lying in their communications, but that is true in the offline world of dating too. As I have said before, I believe there is a tendency to be more honest online because you will not have to face the possible rejection the same way as in person.

As long as these people are practicing safe sex, what does it really matter? Obviously, they also need to set other guidlines for their own safety...again as they would offline. The internet is not going to make a person have more affairs then they would otherwise. The internet does not make a married man/woman cheat, that is a character trait, good or bad.

There are online dating services set up for these types of relationships specifically. If it is not what you are looking for, then you just have to choose a different one and be clear in your personal ad that you are looking for a real relationship. On the other hand, if you are looking for these types of services, there are plenty of them out there.

Remember too, all the loving commited relationships that online dating has created. All those couples (including my husband and myself) who would have never found each other otherwise. It can't be all bad.

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Good, bad or indifferent, the internet has opened doors that were closed to us before. What a joy I feel being a part of it.

Jennifer Lester is an expert on online dating. With years of experience and study, she offers her advice and insight to other singles on their path to happiness.

Don't keep reaching for the technique books and articles. Remember, it's never about the sex. In my work with relationships, it became very clear to me that people’s feelings about the quality of their sexual relationship is a fantastic guide to the quality of their relationship. My work is about opening up a conversation that needs to happen for growth to occur. Whether that’s between me and my client or my client and their partner, it’s always beneficial. I know that a relationship isn’t purely about the sex but it does tend to be the first thing to give way when a couple starts to struggle. The mistake that most of us make, myself included, is then to get fixated on the sex being the issue. It rarely is, in fact some people have gone as far as to suggest that it’s never about the sex.

In preparing for a seminar, I was trying to find a good way to illustrate how great sex is 95% behaviour and 5% technique and I was reminded of a piece of research I came across regarding first impressions. One of the things I coach people on is dating skills and a client recently asked me “ How do I make a good impression, what do I say?” Talk about barking up the wrong tree. Do you know that 64% of what people perceive about you is how you look as you say what you say, 30% is how you say what you say and only 6% is what you say? Yet many of us obsess about what we should say or worse, what we did say. Relax, no one is really listening, they’re too busy checking out your shoes.

So back to sex…when the relationship begins to get stuck in a power struggle (and this is a natural occurrence) the sex begins to tail off and we start looking for the manuals about how to make sex great again. It’s pretty much a total waste of time to approach it this way and generally leads to greater resentment and frustration. A better approach is to suspend judgment for a while and ask yourself if it isn’t about the sex what’s really going on?

Which brings me to my tag line ‘There’s more to sex than just sex!’

About the Author

Michael Myerscough is a professional speaker and relationship success coach. Michael has lots of great tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use. Visit him at www.thegreatsexcoach.com and sign up for his free newsletter or you can find all the same content in a work safe format at www.thegreatrelationshipcoach.com

The good news is, and the bad news is ... we have choices. Was your email flooded with Valentine’s specials like mine was? Enhance your libido ... Sweet somethings .... Enlarge your ... Romance your honey .... My favorite was the one that read "consider the many faces of love." That's what this article is about.

Recently I was emailing with Michael Myerscough, The Great Sex coach about a presentation he's going to do for a corporation about "reptilian" behaviors in the workplace.

The reptilian brain is our automatic-reaction basic-survival brain - the one that pays attention to - can I eat it? will it eat me? or can I mate with it? The life of easy choices. Since this brain is into survival, its messages are automatic and strong - defending territory, aggression, sex, fear, hunger, pain.

ARE YOU PAYING ATTENTION?

Michael and I come up with ideas and I supply cute phrases for them - banging the law clerk instead of banging the gavel, defending your turf instead of defending the merits of the proposal, hiring the black spandex mini instead of hiring the best candidate, hitting your partner instead of hitting the books ... the cute language ends. Firing someone because it's too hot or you’re in pain. Stealing food from the staff refrigerator. Missing work because of an addiction. The reptilian brain is also the seat of addiction.

Are we to act on these urges? Certainly not. If your life is threatened, yes, hit the person. But most of the things that occur in our modern day lives only FEEL threatening to our life, they aren't really. We react to insults to our ego or being cut off in the passing lane as if they were life threatening. Our brains don't know the difference between what's real and what isn't real, what's past and what's present.

UNDISCRIMINATING

The reptilian brain is very 'down and dirty'. It's designed to keep us alive, so when a stimulus (threat or sex object) appears, it pumps out those chemicals that SHUT DOWN our thinking brain. If a bear were in front of you, you’d be better off NOT to think. You don't need to "know" much about something dangerous - you just need to get the hell out of there. Or shoot it. If you stop and THINK, i.e., is this a grizzly or an Alaskan brown bear, you would be dead. So we're programmed to have a default mode that precludes thinking.

Back to "the many faces of love." There's love, there's lust, there's sex, there's making love. Learning to make distinctions, and understand that you have choices in your responses, can make a difference in your life.

Learning more about the different parts of your brain and the messages they send and how to respond to them is emotional intelligence. You can take an EQ course on the Internet. The good news and the bad news is that we, unlike the reptile, do have choices.

About the Author

Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach, GLOBAL EQ. Emotional intelligence coaching to enhance all areas of your life - career, relationships, midlife transition, resilience, self-esteem, parenting. EQ Alive! - excellent, accelerated, affordable EQ coach certification. Susan is the author of numerous ebooks, is widely published on the Internet, and a regular speaker for cruise lines. For marketing services go here.

According to mythology, love goddess Aphrodite was known by her own formulated preparations and ointments that she gives to her lovers to increase their sexual power. This is the reason of why today we are calling all stimulating elixirs as aphrodisiacs. Nowadays men are not such lucky and we highly recommend to read this article to men who live in big cities.

Without doubt best aphrodisiacs are Sun, a good sleep and fresh air. A good sleep is necessary for the body to pack itself up, to increase its energy and revitalize its hormones. Sun light is a powerful doping for our body including sexual hormones. The main reason of men's vitality in holidays is being relaxed in fresh air. But in Autumn's cloudy days some natural reinforcements may help a lot.

Magical power of foods:

Basil, clove, ginger, onion, tomato, radish, celery, egg, carrot, red pepper, oats, asparagus, fresh onion, chestnut, hazelnut, pistachio nut, coconut, cucumber, oyster, caviar are main foods to improve your sexual power. Having them in your weekly menu selections would be a wise choice. Specially, foods containing vitamin E like pistachio, almond, hazelnut and walnut are natural drugs for impotence and erectile disorders.

Red is good for men's vitality:

When we say aphrodisiacs we generally mean drugs for men because they must be active in sexual relationships. In other words, for a successful lovemaking they must be aroused and erected. For a man vigor red color is important. In astrology Mars represents man and its sexual power, and Mars's color symbol is red. So, red colored foods and drinks are recommended for man's arousal. For example red pepper, red ginseng...

A man who is always wearing pale, pastel or dark colored dresses may get less excitations. Maybe this is the reason of using red lights, red under wares, red bed sheets... to create an erotic environment. Red coral or ruby stone are also good for increasing man's energy.

Women who feel sexually less active may also profit from red color and stones. But the must important aphrodisiacs for a woman is love and affection added into lovemaking.

As vegetal aphrodisiacs, vitamins are very helpful for a successful sex life. Specially vitamin E is vital for men. Beside pills you can get vitamin E through natural foods and specially hazelnut contains many minerals and essential fat acids. To overcome the fatigue syndrome due to modern life and high technology, vitamin B is also indispensable.

Avoid depression:

Remember that behind sexual troubles, many hormonal and nourishing disorders, and heavy depressions may exist. Also, after a serious depression or a nutrition disorder only a treatment of natural mixtures may not be sufficient, in such cases help of a psychiatrist (sexologist) or nutrition expert is needed.

Heavy training may be harmful:

For a healthy sexual life a light and not tiring training program is as important as vegetal aphrodisiacs. A light and regular exercise program will balance your metabolism and hormonal system to keep you sexually active. But beware of heavy and tiring training programs because an extra low fat texture may cause a performance decrease.

Yoga, meditation and many other positive energy techniques are recommended to purify your brain against stress and support sexual energy. Right breathing exercises are also important for a successful sex life. If you insist for heavy training please pay special attention for a regular and healthy nutrition.

A Special Booster Formula for Men:

Put 1 kg. of a good quality flower honey into a glass pot, add 250 gr. powdered ginger, 100 gr. powdered Indian saffron, 50 gr. peeled and pounded green cardamom, 1 gr. saffron, 5 gr. pounded coriander, 4 sweet spoons of pounded stinging nettle seeds, 2 sweet spoons of royal jelly, 4 sweet spoonful of pollen, 100 gr. unshelled and pounded pistachio nut and 100 gr. of pine nut. Stir and mix the whole with a wood spoon. You can store the pot in a cool and gloomy place. If you don't have any allergy or illness against those ingredients, eat one tablespoon 2 times (morning and night) in a day.

About The Author

Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amy's Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amy's Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.

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The best Perfume and fragrances will make your enticing.

In ancient civilizations materials and ingredients were added to oils used to perfume the skin. Today science is able to isolate and remove a pure single aroma from natural materials. As a general rule, the purer and more distilled the material, the more it costs. However, there are many wonderful fragrances you can buy that are both inexpensive and of a high quality.

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I have spent the past few years learning how sex is being sold over the internet. I have had real life experiences with men of all professional levels. I meant men of higher education. They run major companies from all over the USA and the World. Men of all walks of life. But what they all have one thing in common, they are looking for on the internet for sex and bdsm sessions. It has open the pandora box that socity doesn't want to know about. For I have seen sex for sale at high prices that the Chicago market is going. What once was the street walker line of work has taken on a new form of a quick encounter. It's just a phone call away and with mintues to hours you can have what you desire meet you for the price that they are marketed at with in different sites.

In very business the sex industry has it's own language and offer many terms in which the girls put up quick sites to turn the quick dollars.

What once was look down upon has become a acceptable exchange of moral and experiences. What the other partner doesn't know will not hurt them. For the double lives these men live.

As a sexual sale the money becomes the main reason of working this industry. It can lead to drugs and drinking for some. What once was not morally correct. Then becomes blinded and you see the sex as a job to pay the bills and make a living.

Sex for sale comes in all shapes and sizes. For what one likes doesn't mean the next one well like. The sex market is multi billion dollar business. Sex is a desire of everyday function.

As it continues to grow it will become a market to which guidelines well be placed. Our freedom of self expression is going to be limited to what socity wants to let others know about.

As I have to live with all my experiences and the nights I spent working. I have decided to leave the past behind and more forward.

Mistress Jadeee is educated in the Chicago. Has years of experience in the BDSM life style. She has worked over the internet as a professional dominatrix that offer real time sessions. She offer advise about sexuality, bdsm, and interest that may extend into alternative life styles.

The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.

Title: Sex and New Relationships Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 830 Category: Relationships

SEX AND NEW RELATIONSHIPS By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Brad was just completing his divorce after having been married for over 25 years. He had not dated in what seemed like forever to him, and had no idea how to start. "How do you start a new relationship?" he asked me in our counseling session.

"What are you most concerned about?" I asked.

"Sex," he answered.

"What about sex?" I asked.

Pause…. "Well…performance. What if I can’t perform? What if I’m too nervous to perform?"

"Okay. Let’s start with sex."

In the 35 years that I’ve been counseling, I’ve discovered that the one mistake people make in starting a new relationship is to have sex too soon. There are many reasons why people have sex too soon: they think it will create deeper intimacy, they are just in it for the conquest, they are afraid of rejection if they say no, they get physically carried away, they like sex. Let’s take the example of Yvonne.

Yvonne is a lovely young woman in her middle thirties who really wants to get married and have children. She has no trouble meeting men, but the relationships don’t last. In fact, they rarely even get started.

The problem is that Yvonne often believes what men say to her early on in the relationship. The last man she dated a couple of months ago, came on really strong. He told her on the first date how wonderful she was, how he had rarely met anyone like her. When he came on sexually, she resisted, although she was really turned on and attracted to him. He suavely said to her "I bet you’re worried that if we have sex I won’t call you again." "Right," she said. "That’s exactly what I’m worried about." Well, he answered, "I’m not that kind of man. Can’t you tell that we’re really connected to each other? I haven’t had such a good time in years! Of course I want to see you again!" Yvonne agreed that they were having a wonderful time. She put aside her inner warning signals and had sex with him. Sure enough, he never called her again.

The reality is that, no matter how wonderful things seem on the first or second date, this is not enough time to deeply care about someone. And sex without deep caring might be a physically satisfying experience, but it is flat emotionally and spiritually. It will almost always leave both people feeling like something was missing. Without love and caring, it is easy to move on to another person, another conquest. It is easy to dismiss the encounter - since something was missing, it must not have been the right person. But these two people never gave themselves a change to see if they were right for each other. They jumped into the most physically intimate of experiences before there was any emotional intimacy. They tried to get the intimate connection through sex, but great sex is an outgrowth of intimacy, not a cause of it. Without love and caring, any problem becomes too much to handle, any deficiency or imperfection becomes cause to move on. Physical attraction is never enough to see people through the inevitable conflicts that come up in primary relationships.

Deep caring comes through spending time together getting to know each other. It comes from months of laughing together, crying together, discovering what is deeply endearing about each other. It comes from having conflict and getting through it to understanding each other on deeper levels. It comes when two people let each in on the soul level. You need to love someone’s soul before you will be willing to go through the challenges that come up in all relationships. Without that depth of love, it is just too easy to leave.

So, what I said to Brad was, "Take your time. Don’t jump into bed until you feel so safe with each other that even if the first time you make love you don’t get an erection it won’t ruin the relationship. It may take months or longer before you feel that safe with someone."

"Months? I’m supposed to wait months before having sex?"

"Brad, I don’t know how long it will take for you to feel loved and loving, safe and deeply caring. It depends on how much time you time you spend with each other. It depends on how honest you are with each other. It depends on how you each deal with conflict. You will certainly not feel safe until you have conflict and see how the two of you handle it. What if you discover that your partner completely shuts down or gets enraged in conflict? Will you feel safe if you are worried about her reaction if you can’t perform? All this takes time. What’s your rush? Is it sex you want or a relationship you want?

"Okay, I got it. I want a relationship. Whew! I actually feel some relief knowing that it’s okay to take my time!"

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com

For starters. . .

Read between the lines.

A wise person once said, Words carry a little weight, but actions truly reveal the entireity of a matter. When you meet a new guy, be especially observant of the kinds of things he talks about. Carefully listen to his conversation. Remember, you can usually learn plenty about a person simply by listening to them. If the conversation is laced with sexual innuendos, that is your "red flag".

Where’s the fire...

Be leery of physical contact early in the relationship. Someone who is overly "touchy" after knowing you for a short amount of time might have less than honorable motives. Yes, some guys are “touchy feely” with women. But think for a moment, if you marry a man who can't keep his hands to himself, you are asking for trouble!

Let get real, here. As single moms, it's only natural to enjoy the attention of men, but don’t allow loneliness or insecurity to propel you into a relationship that may bring pain later. You are far too precious for that, single mom.

Take your time with the physical stuff. Approach the dating relationship the same way you would with a platonic friend. Save the kissing or hugging until you really know the guy.

We often give away far too much too soon in our interpersonal encounters. Don't be the type woman that every guy in the neighborhood knows what it’s like to kiss and squeeze. Even if he says he loves you, remember that love waits. Love is patient, love is kind and real love will never disrespect you. Slow down, enjoy the progression of the new relationship. There's no fire, so hold your horses!

God’s plan for you...

God has a plan and it's not about pointless denial. His plan is first marriage and then sex after the legal, spiritual and emotional commitment. When you create a list of rules for your kids, you do so to protect them, right? Well, God is no different. He loves you and wants to spare you unnecessary grief.

There is forgiveness....

If for whatever reason, you have engaged in a sexual relationship outside of marriage understand that God still loves you. Our blunders don't make Him love us any less. He desperately wants to put the pieces of your life back together and make all things new again.

Living life "our way", guided by our emotions or feelings, always brings disappointment and shame. However, God specializes in such wounds. Allow Him to cleanse your pain and remove your guilt (read 1John 1:9). If you confess your sin, He WILL forgive it. He’s promised. The next and most crucial step is for you to forgive yourself.

Our children....

Our children rely on us to model appropriate moral standards. Most wise moms advise their teens to abstain from sex before marriage. We carefully explain to them the dangers of sex "now a days". We share how abstinence protects us against sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. Taking this into account, why should we want anything different for ourselves? Our children are growing up so fast. Our time with them is very precious. Let's not taint it recovering from unecessary love-related heartbreaks. Nothing is worse for children than to see their moms wounded, hurt, bitter and dejected.

My mother recently told me, (relative to my health) 'a good mother takes supreme care of herself for the sake of her children'. I think the same applies to emotional health. Don’t run the risk of giving your body and soul away only to be left with an empty bed and broken heart. It really isn't worth it, single mom.

About The Author

Teri Worten is a freelance writer as well as the founder of the online contemporary magazine for single moms and all women - Gotta Be Me Girl.Com! You can visit her site and read more articles at http://www.gottabemegirl.com.

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The other highly popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ? What is the normal size? How thick and long can be the biggest? How small is acceptable for lovemaking?

Every man's genital is different as his finger print and the role of the penis size in a happy and successful sexual relationship is not such important. At least you don't have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger! Even with a huge organ a man's chance is very limited to make her achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover and doesn't know proper sex techniques, most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasure.

Even a man who has a miniscule dick may be a perfect lover! The only way is to learn how to make better love, how to be a better partner, instead of being paranoiacly distressed. This is normal and this is your body, love it and try to use it more creatively and with more love. Kiss and caress every part of your partner's body for long time, arouse her enough, and go down and give her a nice oral love... until she reaches the climax.

Believe me, every woman loves and prefers such a talented lover in the place of a big dick entering a few times into your vagina before spurting out and then sleeping in his side as nothing happened! Naturally!

Having a small organ is not a guilt, a crime, if he knows his body and has developed many better solutions he is absolutely a CLEVER man and a perfect lover!

In regard to early ejaculations... This, also, is not a crime and if the man has not an organic disorder, may be corrected with some effort. But many men, instead of paying attention to their situation, act like early coming off doesn't make any difference in their sex life! Which may be true!

Actually you may consider the natural disharmony between two genders. Men, by their nature, want to thrust into a hole when aroused and squirt in, that's all! But woman needs a prior preparation, a foreplay of at least 10-15 minutes to be concentrated and ready for insertion.

One woman likes this position, another may choose that position, many women request clitoris stimulation besides men's thrusting... Many fatiguing services asked from men! And furthermore, if a serious and passionate relationship doesn't exist between partners, men are really exhausted in the bed. Is a natural error, an innate lack of harmony exists between men and women?

Let see some different type of early comers:

Type A: The worst. He doesn't even know he is an early comer. When he likes, he takes the woman under him and ejaculates. He doesn't care anything else! For the woman's orgasm? What is that? He hasn't heard anything about woman's orgasm!

Type B: He knows about woman's orgasm but act like he doesn't know. Same of the Type A, he pulls the woman under and he comes off, the only difference, if by mistake or pain, woman makes a weak sound like "ah" he will suppose she reached an orgasm but for his comfort, he will never ask her the truth!

Type C: He knows his disorder, he is sad and wants to visit a doctor but he is shamed or can't find the time to go! As a foreplay he kiss and caress her a little but he can't wait and comes off. Sometimes he can't even find times to thrust his dick into her. He is sad but life goes on!

Type D: He is aware of his early ejaculation disorder but he also knows his partner's orgasm right! So, he will kiss and caress her at great length, give her a great oral love and bring her to an orgasm. Then start to make love for himself and he comes off. Because his partner reached orgasm before his quick ejaculation there is no trouble. Partners are relaxed and happy!

That means, if a man is understanding and clever the early ejaculation is not an important obstacle on the way of a happy sexual relationship. Man may visit a doctor and try to find the main reason behind this disorder and get a treatment which is totally normal, but meantime he is kind and not selfish, gives her ultimate pleasures to reach her orgasm.

An absolutely good sex for a woman is a normal dick size, a foreplay at length, long kisses and caresses, staying inside her long enough with many thrusting, knowing her favorite positions and giving her the best pleasures... not insisting on what he wants, but understanding her and giving her what she needs to get her climax.

Please remember that if she has reached to one orgasm in her entire life, she knows the best position for her, and an intelligent man never insists on a new position which may cause a lack of concentration, he will follow her orientations.

Finally, what is the woman's responsibility in creating a harmonious sexual relationship? Women must talk and describe what they want clearly. Of course talking to the boors will not produce a positive result but intelligent men may understand your needs. Do not imitate orgasm or do not keep silent and sleep... talk to your lovers and kindly explain your desires, if not you will lose your sexual desires and even you won't be able to masturbate and get orgasm by yourself in the future!

About The Author

Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amy's Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amy's Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.

The title of this article is likely to provoke many feelings, thoughts, sarcasms etc., as many people falsely believe that sex, spirituality, and the soul are at opposite ends of a continuum. It is incredibly sad that something so beautiful and intrinsic in our nature is so poorly understood and completely obliterated in our society. Most of us are taught from an early age that the body is dirty, sex is bad and that we shouldn’t touch our genitals. Somewhere along the line we developed this inaccurate perception that sex and spirituality are separate and that in order to be spiritual you need to be asexual and that you are a better person if you divorce yourself from your sexual energy, feelings, desires, and needs and that spirituality is somehow superior to sexuality.

These attitudes are in complete contradiction to what is natural and healthy. It is like cutting off one of your legs and trying to run. We are taught to suppress our sexuality and to feel shame for being a sexual being and therefore this creates the problematic patterns we see associated with sex in our society such as excessive sex partners, violence, dissatisfaction with ones sex life, sexual confusion, degradation, incest, addiction that are practically an epidemic. We have created a society with two sexual extremes and very few people are able to find a healthy medium. At one end we have people with very few or no limits where meaningless sex, addiction, violence, rape, incest, degradation etc. occurs and at the other end we have people with very rigid limits who are afraid of sex, who are uncomfortable even talking about it, who don’t know even know what arouses them, who think it is dirty and bad and should be hidden and or not engaged in. The common thread in both of these extremes is shame. People at both ends of the continuum are experiencing shame but exhibit it in different ways. These are prime examples of what happens when we disconnect our soul from our sexual selves.

One of the factors that cause sex to create such great difficulty in our relationships is because sexual energy and spiritual energy feel very similar. Sometimes it is difficult to tell the two apart. They often overlap. Because our society doesn’t encourage awareness or understanding of either one of these energies we are left to try and figure them out ourselves and in our ignorance we develop patterns that are unhealthy. Sex is very spiritual and spirituality can feel very sexual at times. I also believe this is one of the factors that makes sex addictive, as I believe all addictions are really a search for the spiritual. Addictive substances and activities give us that incredible whole, at one with the universe, complete, euphoric feeling that spirituality makes us feel. Because it feels so wonderful, we want to feel it over and over so we keep doing the substance or activity. After awhile we need more and more of the substance or activity to have the same feeling. We are not taught that these incredible spiritual feelings can be achieved on a regular basis through developing deep healthy relationships with the universe, others and ourselves.

Sex is not bad, dirty, unhealthy and the root of these problems. It is the separation of sex from our souls and suppression of sexual energy that creates these problems. It is the lack of understanding and awareness of our sexual energy and the ignorance that that this creates that causes to act in ways that our troublesome and destructive. Being taught to suppress and divorce our sexual energy separates us from a vital piece of our spirituality. Our whole survival is dependant upon sex as well as being one of the most pleasurable experiences we can have and one of the most spiritual experiences one can have when in the context of love and respect. Sexuality is a core ingredient of our spiritual make up. By continually trying to suppress sexuality we are only throwing fuel on the fire. The solution is to explore and embrace our sexual energy, thoughts, feelings, and fantasies. Reclaim our sexuality and reconnect it to our souls. Get it out in the open. Part of the reason destructive sexual forces have so much power is because of the suppression and shame. Problems loose their power when brought out in the open and dealt with directly.

So how do we shed ourselves of years of negative conditioning and develop a healthier attitude, reconnect our souls with our sexuality and celebrate our sexual selves. Well to begin with and to ensure that our next generation will be a more sexually enlightened group of people we start by teaching our children. From a very early age we help them to develop a healthy appreciation and respect for their bodies and promote a healthy attitude towards masturbation. We talk freely and openly with them about sex without shame. We encourage them to talk to us and ask questions. We teach them the difference between healthy and unhealthy sex. We teach them that sex is human, healthy and sacred and not just a physical act.

My personal belief is that healthy soul-satisfying sex takes place between two people who connect on many levels and do or are on their way to care about each other. In my experience the deeper the relationship and the deeper the spiritual connection is then the more fantastic and spiritual the sex will be. Healthy spiritual sex can also occur by yourself if you are without partner by deepening your relationship with yourself. Meaningless or casual sex usually results in feelings of emptiness, unfulfillment, and shame. It takes us further away from our souls and leaves us searching for more in someone else. In my opinion, great sex requires, deep spiritual connections, deep intellectual connections, communication and as the relationship evolves trust will become an issue. Sometimes we meet someone and have an instant attraction. In this instance great sex can occur quickly, but if deepening of the spiritual and intellectual connection, communication and trust are not nurtured then this attraction will diminish and die. These things can only be developed over time and therefore the deeper the trust, the connection and communication is then the less inhibitions we will have and the freer we will become in enjoying our sexual experiences. The sex will become even more explosive and we will be able achieve new heights of passion and fulfillment we didn’t know existed. The depth of relationships has no limit except those that we bring to it with our own fears and issues and therefore if we allow the relationship to grow and deepen there will always be another higher level of great sex to be achieved.

I understand that many people are comfortable with casual sex and that especially in adolescents, young adulthood and phases of adulthood such as after divorce that it may be necessary to experiment , retaliate or be reckless to find ones way and learn. Ultimately I believe that what we find is that the most fulfilling sex is that which is explored with someone we care about, but we may have to go down many roads and go through many experiences to learn this for ourselves. So while we are on this journey or when we are with our loving partner I believe there are basic tenets we should teach our children and abide by ourselves to promote spiritual, respectful, ethical sex. Those tenets are: · Respect · Neither party should be hurt physically · No coercion · Honesty · Both parties should agree upon the activity engaged in · Communication · Both parties should want the same result. (Ex. If you are looking for just sex then you should not have sex with someone you know is looking for a relationship. )

Other steps you can take to continue to celebrate your sexuality may include beginning to tell yourself different messages. Tell yourself that sex is great, wonderful, good and spiritual. Find some good books on healthy sexuality and erotica and read, read, read. Visit some websites. Do everything you can to educate yourself. It will probably take a long time to override the old voices in your head and you may need to hear the new messages over and over. It may be helpful to talk to someone like an advisor or an educator to help validate your new messages. Try to find friends who are on the journey of understanding their sexuality or who are comfortable with sex that you can share this aspect of yourself with freely.

Explore your own body and discover what you like and what you don’t. Find what excites you and what doesn’t. What feels good and what doesn’t. Make love with yourself. If you have a partner, let your partner know what you need and want and when you become comfortable with it, then allow your partner to watch you while you fulfill yourself. This can be very arousing for both partners and it teaches you both new things about each other’s bodies.

Be adventurous. Be aware. Be present in the here and now. Allow yourself to become immersed in the sexual experience. Open yourself up and fully experience each touch, sensation, smell, movement, sound and taste while you are making love with yourself or your lover. Tune into your body and soul and listen to the yearnings of your soul; they will guide you. Be willing to try new things even if they feel foreign or scary.

Get naked outside and make wild passionate love. Personally I believe that there is not anything more arousing and spiritual than to be naked outside and make love with the feel of the elements upon your body. There is something incredibly freeing about it and it elicits uninhibited passions. It takes you back to the primal basics. This can be done either by yourself or with partner.

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. This cannot be emphasized enough. Talk to your lover about your feelings, needs, wants. Express your fears, inhibitions and embarrassments as well as your fantasies and expectations. If you are without partner then get to know yourself completely from the inside out. Not only will this enhance your sexual experience, but will make life more fulfilling in general and if the time comes to be with a partner again then you will be a better lover and better able to enjoy the experience fully. If you are with partner then get to know yourself and your lover from the inside out.

Sex is one of the most powerful spiritual experiences we can experience. It should be celebrated and honored for the magnificent gift that it is. Reclaim your sexuality. Experience the wonder and joy of soul-satisfying sex. Your soul will thank you.

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed is a writer, educator, therapist/advisor/coach and holistic health consultant specializing in Erotic Communication, Sexual Intimacy, Soul Satisfying Sex as well as issues of living with chronic illness, chronic pain or disability. Sexuality services can be found at http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul and Chronic illness services can be found at http://www.holistichelp.net/

The reality is that sexual desire does not stop once a man reaches the age of fifty. Most of these men are very happy to have a sex partner their own age or close to it. But, there is a percentage of these men, who are looking for sex and possibly a life partner who is much younger than them. This is especially true when men are trying to meet, then date, through the Internet.

In the every day world it is very difficult to start a relationship between older men and much younger women but for some reason that barrier appears greatly diminished if the relationship starts through the Internet. People seem less likely to be concerned about the age difference and love begins to flourish, which often times leads to marriage. Only after they physically get together or are married, that problems begin to crop up.

There is no doubt that the younger woman always makes her partner feel younger. During the first months of the relationship or marriage, it seems as though the man can beat all sexual records. The question is, how long will he stay in the same sexual peak once the honeymoon is over and life returns to a normal routine?

With age a variety of physical and emotional changes happen to the human body. A fact of nature that has nothing to do with our wishes. Unfortunately we cannot cheat mother nature but that does not mean the sex drive disappears. What it does suggest is the approach to sex will often change.

The successful sex life of these couples is enhanced by the manner of approach. Successful couples have taken the time to learn the secrets and tricks that allows them to survive the difficult moments. If both partners really love each other they will develop their own form of Karma Sutra. But in doing so, they have to trust each other and share their problems and sexual desires, openly.

Older men need to understand that although they probably cannot maintain the same fast and furious pace as they did in their twenties, their life experiences should more than make up for the physical aspect of love making. Older men usually have more control over the physical and mental state of their being and a much greater knowledge of what elicits pleasure for a woman. This "experience factor" grants them the ability of understanding the female body to stimulate and satisfy a woman which in turn should culminate in prolonged sexual stimulation prior to orgasm.

It can be a very exciting surprise for a young woman, whose only sexual experience may have been young men her own age. Women often complain that they need more foreplay in their love making and not all of them get it from young men.

Most men after 50 also need some kind of foreplay to achieve an erection. So, they turn this kind of situation into win-win arena for both! For older men, this foreplay can be very exiting as well and helps him to prepare his body for sex. Surprisingly, he can do it much quicker then he can expect , because playing and touching a young woman's body will arouse his ability to perform sex, dramatically!

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I am rubbing my keyboard are you rubbing your mouse. Cybersex is it cheating on your partner? This is a controversial issue, one that has started a good number of debates across the internet. I would have to say of course it's considered cheating; you are sharing intimate wants, needs and sexual fantasies with another person; when you should only be sharing those needs with your partner. Cybersex is described as a mediated communication that virtual ourselves with the intention of becoming turned on; intellectually, emotionally and physically. The bonds of marriage are already under so much stress with our world today, cybersex robs a couple of intimacy and time together. When the best part of your free time is spent with someone outside of your spouse, when you would rather be with that person than your spouse, when that person is the person with whom you share your feelings, your concerns, your needs and wants, you are cheating, whether or not you have ever been in a cyber relationship or a totally physically intimate relationship. It is a physical act. Making love is as much in the mind and is it is the body and cheating is an act of the mind just as must as it is our body. Cheating is exactly that cheating. It is cheating the person, to whom you have made a commitment, of loyalty trust love, be it of your mind or your body. So whether it is on a keyboard, on a monitor, in a conversation or in a bed, or on the phone breaking the commitment is breaking the commitment. Cheating is cheating. It destroys the bond of trust once that trust is lost it the hardest thing to ever get back. Most people just do whatever makes them happy and have no commitment to the vows they once made. They feel that they won't get caught and it no different than that of a movie but your being intimate with someone over the computer your exchanging words to turn another individual on. I have to say wake up people both people behind those keyboards are real human being. There is no train monkey typing here. There is more ways than just one to have sex, than body to body contact .Cybersex is coming from images of the mind. You are expressing words that are arousing another. You can rationalize it all you want, "This is just cybersex, it's not real" or "I'm not emotionally attached to this person". But if you feel guilty about it, your conscience is telling you that you're doing something wrong, something that may hurt the person you're with, offline then you are cheating. Isn't cybersex just as damaging as picking someone up at a bar and going home with them? It's entirely too easy for us to pretend that the person on the other side of the chat isn't a real, living, person. Your cyber lover’s heart can be broken just as easily as your "real life" lover's heart can be. There's a lot of focus on on-line sex and I think it's really getting beyond the meet someone, masturbate and type at the same time routine. It's about relationships and communication, erotic identity and ideas." trust and betraying the one you’re with. Is it really just harmless fun? It’s more than just words being typed on a screen it comes from images of the mind and if you think the other person who typing to you just laughing it up, boy are you wrong. It’s also about the trading of nude pictures too and I guarantee the person on the other side typing to you does not have both hands placed on the keyboard .This is just another example where the bonds of marriage are broken. The internet can be a dangerous thing. Time for you to really look at the relationship you have and ask yourself if you really are happy and if you answer no then maybe its time you ended the marriage, instead of involving another individual in it. You can’t justify your adultery that it is online and not real. Adultery is still adultery. You cross that line the moment you begin sneaking around to share intimate thoughts with someone other than your partner. In cybersex you have secrecy; intimacy and sex are all the same elements as an affair. If you are having an affair or show signs of cyber addiction it is now time to talk to a counselor. Marriage can be beautiful but it takes communication and two people making it work.

About the Author: Rose DesRochers admin@todays-woman.net http://www.todays-woman.net Rose is a published author and web columnist from Canada Ontario and she is also the founder of Today's Woman a community for men and women over 18, where writers/poets/columnists meet and exchange ideas, contest, rate and review and help each other succeed in the writing industry.

Let the moralists name methe temple prostitute of Aphrodite.Did not the Israelite women do the same?So come you whoremasters even in groups,and let me indulge myself in full measure.For sex is beautiful!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR ARTHUR ZULU is an editor, book reviewer, playwright, and published author. He also writes short stories, scripts, essays, and poems, and ghost writes for others.

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Sexual Energy! – by Joseph Ghabi

How open are we when it comes to talking about sex? We are all so captivated, yet intimidated and shy about sex. It always seems to play in the back of our own minds. My question is just how much are we appreciative of our sexuality?

Whilst growing up we are not taught a great deal about the truth behind our own sexuality. The reason being that society has not allowed us to experiment our true sexuality and what that really means to its full extent. This seems to be so, especially where religion is concerned. There is always the conflict about sexuality with religions on the whole!

What is it that we are afraid of when we come to talk about our sexuality? How well do you communicate your needs and preference of your sexuality with your partner? Or do you even know what your sexual needs and preferences are? How acceptant are you of our own sexuality?

To begin with, we live in a society which has been based upon many old thoughts and ideas that are really no longer functional. These ‘ideas’ have been, in many instances, dictated to us by our own religions and the circumstances we grew up in. Sex has grown to become something we are fearful of in both our conscious and sub-conscious minds. So much so that we are no longer aware of how to approach or handle the subject! In reality, we should not allow this to be our obstacle or a setback in sexual life. We must now take the initiative to try to figure out our own sexuality.

What is Sexuality? Sexuality is defined as the individual inclination of any human soul for their sexual preference. Sexuality is an individual, shared and energy-centered affair. Through time we have allowed ourselves to become accustomed to a set of rules in terms of how other people view and judge us when it comes to our own sexuality. What is right and wrong?

In order to embrace sexuality as a whole, you must first identify your own sexual preferences. I believe this is one of the most important factors in this subject and is very important that you discover it for yourself and accept it as something that is a part of you and not something you should be afraid of. Are you homosexual, heterosexual, bi-sexual or whatever else you can possibly be sexually? Regardless of your sexual orientation, sex is still an individual, shared and energy-centered affair. Don’t you think? Both men and women alike are sometimes having problem in identifying their own sexuality. Let’s be honest here, even from time to time we do have the tendency of thinking, at least, somewhere in the back of our minds what it would be like to be with a partner of the same sex. Being continuously evolving human souls we have already experimented different past lives being either of the sexes in order to bring our soul to grow having balanced experiences with both the male and female energies.

I believe the problem concerning sex in our society, especially the way we look at and judge each other by stereotyping someone by their sexual preference is wrong. Let’s take a gay or lesbian human soul for example, why do we insist upon stereotyping them from the crowd? Oh! I forgot they are not normal! Well according to what or to whom? How do we define what is really ‘NORMAL’? Yeah now I remember, it was according to biology and our human reproduction system and also those attitudes we learnt from religion. Why do we need to reproduce? There are numerous issues that influence us in terms of religious belief and in many cases such religious issues thrive upon forcing fear and guilt upon us for embracing our sexuality openly and by using that fear and guilt it enables that religion to keep control of people and it grows as we pass those beliefs down to our children and them to their children and throughout the many generations. That alone helps the religion sustain its own growth by reinforcing our beliefs to those of their own belief system. Then is it basically for our own advantage or for the advantage of the belief system?

Let me define the different aspects of sexuality which exist within their three levels.

First, sex is an individuality act. We have been taught since early childhood and throughout our upbringing by some belief system that exists out there to be ashamed, fearful, un-easy and that it is against God’s wishes for us to embrace our individual sexuality in terms of us understanding our body and our own sexuality. Sex is energy, God is energy and we are part of that energy. We are brought up being told not to enjoy our individual acts of sexuality because it is dirty. We were always made to feel guilty about doing it. When I talk of this ‘individual act of sexuality’, what I am referring to is the act of masturbation. Why have we been deprived of expressing our own personal sexual needs as an individual? The main reasons for this does relate to what I stated previously. Our individual sexual act is a natural phenomenon for either men or women and this can not only provide us with personal satisfaction, but it can also serve as an energy release system which helps us have a clearer mind which will enable us to conduct our life and growth more effectively in this life time. There is absolutely nothing wrong with bringing some joy and pleasure to yourself at any private time you wished to. By doing so, you will help bring awareness to yourself about your self and your sexual needs and desires when you are sharing yourself with your partner when you are in a relationship.

Second, sex is a shared act. So, we can go as far as we can with identifying our own sexuality. However, this will also bring us to the fact that what happens between two people sexually is also their own act of privacy, regardless if it is classed as being ‘normal’ within our own belief system. When two people are engaged in an act of intimacy between themselves, we have no right to judge them and in reality, their affairs are not even our business, therefore, we shouldn’t care! But why do we persist in letting it become our affair by judging and criticizing those people? The answer is very simple, because we are border and feel we have ‘no life’ of our own, so we use other people’s affairs to fulfill that boredom and need to gossip. Let’s see! Why should it be that Britney Spears, for example, sex life is so important to everyone? Does she owe us anything that she must make her private life public to the whole world, just because she is a well known singer? Why on earth do we feel the need to learn about her sexual preference? She can sing and dance and entertain us very nicely, is that not enough to keep us occupied? Why we don’t question President Bush about his sexual preference? How about the reporters who are bringing us the juice about Britney’s sexual habits? How comfortable are they in telling us about their own sexual habits? How about you, the reader? Are you open to telling us about your sexual habits? Or you just want to hear someone else’s and judge them according to what you hear, regardless if the story is true or not? What makes the famous people’s gossip, particularly their sexuality, so important to us? Aren’t they just like you and I, being human souls, regardless of if they are famous or not? Sex is a shared act between where, in the majority of times, takes place between two people and it is not the business of yours or mine to judge that. Unless of course you are ready and prepared to ‘spill your guts’ and talk about yourself for a change!

Third, sex is an energy-centered act. More and more often these days we are seeing so many different sex websites and the popularity of these sites is reaching an all time high! This is because our understanding of sex and sexuality is all wrong! It is not only an act in itself between two people. It is not just for reproduction. Ideally sex it should more open that people should be at ease to talk about and express their own feelings rather than suppressing them. Sex is individual, shared between two people and it is also the act of opening our sexual energy. In reality sex is a major opening for us to learn more about ourselves on different levels.

Sex is an energy-centered act and what I mean by this is, when two souls become involved a relationship of growth together, sex becomes the main source of exchanging their energy with each other. To attain that level of energy exchange to happen at a soul level it requires both people involved in the relationship to accept that growth. It cannot work with input from only one of the couple. Sexual energy is about dropping all your reservations, dropping all ideology, dropping all your walls and basically opening all of your gates for your partner. It is about seeing yourself as the image of your partner’s eye when two souls are joined in their sexual action and performance together. You are the image of your partner and it is through that image you grow.

In order to create an energetically established relationship you must be in the right relationships with the right partner in the first place. How many of us today are with the right partner and for the right reasons? How many of us are strong and wise enough that they do not allow their past experiences to interfere in their new ones? How many of us have the courage to accept and allow a new experience to take place in their lives with a new partner they have met? How many of us openly accept our partner for being the way they are and not the way in which we want them be? How many of us are willing to take that extra plunge into some unknown and unfamiliar territory?

Our universe consists of an abundance of energies of which are in existence all around us. These energies exist as the people we meet in our daily routines, the objects we touch to our state of mind and well being. Sexual energy is connected to the vastness of energy which is available for our access and at our own disposal. Why don’t we make full use of these energies? The answer is very simple! Again, it is our narrow minded, ‘human’ way of thinking. How many of us believe that if things in this world cannot be proven by science, then it means they do not exist? How many of us believe and react to new opinions or observations “That’s not the way I learned from my religious teachings!” How many of us believe that our parents dismissed such theories on the conclusion that they do not fit within the traditions and family belief systems and perhaps they were concerned with what other people would SAY about them if they thought that way.

Learn how to open your gates and drop your human shield without any creating expectations of your partner for what they will do or don’t do for or to YOU. Do not bring any of your old baggage into new relationships. It is not the same energy. This is not the same person you are involved with now. Until you learn how to do this, you will risk running into the same patterns of your old relationship situations. Learn to let go, forgive yourself, others and move in your life.

How successfully we can build our sexual energy in our relationships reflects how much we are willing to try our best to bring comfort to our partner. This requires cooperation between both partners without one being left behind. The “ME, ME, ME…” style of attitude will defeat the purpose of this intention and we will always find ourselves in stagnation until we learn the relationship is not all about us. We are or at least ‘should be’ the reflection of ourselves in our partner. The more we invest in our partner, the more we will see that investment being returned to us, but multiplied. Do not allow fear to interfere for there is no place for it here. When you invest fully in your partner and know you have done your best to do so, you should never be hurt moving on after the time comes for your relationship to end. You will never feel regret or guilt by saying “what if I did this or that?” There is no “what if?” in our life. Only, when you know you have invested your best into making it work, there is only “I did my best to make the best I could’ve of out my experience in that relationship” and with that you will be able to move on in peace into a new relationship experience. When one partner is not ready to invest there is nothing you can do. However, if you see that they are trying to do their best to make things work, then help, but without abusing or taking advantage of them.

So, on a final note, invest in your relationships, invest in exploring your sexuality and invest in your growth because in the end it is all about you! You are always the winner at the end. Just think of that for a moment!

Joseph Ghabi The Free Spirit Centre http://www.freespiritcentre.info

About the Author: At the age of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is natural medium presently teaching meditation, numerology and healing. Joseph started the `Free Spirit Centre' website at http://www.freespiritcentre.info. A community web based centre dedicated to personal growth, soul growth, eating disorders, relationships, healing and human issues. E-mail: joseph@freespiritcentre.info

At the age of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is natural medium presently teaching meditation, numerology and healing. Joseph started the ‘Free Spirit Centre’ website at http://www.freespiritcentre.info. A community web based centre dedicated to personal growth, soul growth, eating disorders, relationships, healing and human issues.

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